Anxiety, Social Worries and How to Feel Comfortable in a Crowd

Anxiety, Stress Relief Solutions Add comments

We had a great coaching call last week for our Single Introvert Group.   Thanks to one of our participants for sharing the notes he took from our discussion, we added some additional information and you can see it below. 

If you’d like to be a part of our next coaching group email me with your contact information and I’ll sent you an invite. click here to email Audrey directly.

The MP3 from our coaching call:
3 Steps to Connect with Ease: Even if you’re Anxious in Social Situations,  is available at the link below

https://iTeleseminar….­

Thanks to Doug for the notes that follow:

Tips:
*Add an Event to A Calendar Provides Reminders & Notifications.
*Look Forward to an Upcoming Event.
*Be Aware of Body Sensations & Thoughts
*Create a Positive Image in Your Mind
*For Every One Negative Thought Think of Two Positive.

Nerves Be Calm: Breathing Technique.
Inhale for a 4 Seconds
Hold Your Breath for 7 Seconds
Release for 8 Seconds
Repeat 1 – 5 minutes.

Questions: Is Someone Aware of Body Or Thoughts
Answer: A Person is Aware of Both even Unconsciously

The Future has not happened Yet

The 3 different types of Tools needed to change reactions.
1. Cognitive
2. Physical
3. Emotional

Step 1: Identify the Thoughts (Cognitive),

Step: 2:  Notice where you hold tension, pain or emotion in the body (physical)

Step 3: Release the Emotions that are triggering the thoughts, and the bodily Symptoms dissappear.

Communication Ideas for Introverts:
A Common Concern is: What Do I Say?
a. Non-verbal techniques
b. Verbal techniques

Breaking The Ice, to get a conversation started.

Communication has three parts:
1. Beginning with light chatter,
2. Moving on to Middle conversation starters
3. Creating Deeper  connections. 

A Common Concern is: What Do I Say?
Start with simple beginning tools:
Example: Look for Someone Alone to Approach and use the following questions.
a. This is my first time here at (Location and/or Group)
b. Ask Basic Question which relates to where you are: Do you know this band?
c. Talk about Location: Have You Been Here Before?
d. Talk about the Group: Have You Been with This Group Before?
e. People Provide Clues you can use to Keep A Conversation Going

How to Continue a Conversation
Communication is like tossing a baseball.  You start with throwing the first question.  The other (catches the ball) and answers and then tosses back the ball with the next question.  Make sure to keep the ball going by answering and then opening up the next question.

This Builds & Holds Rapport
Be A Good Listener: Listen Carefully to what the other is saying, it will give you clues of what to talk about next. 

Once you have a conversation started you can invite the person you are talking with to move with you to talk to another person at the event.  It is easier to move through the Crowd with the Person You Just Met & Feel Comfortable with. 

Tool: The Eye Movement Triangle:
If you have trouble looking at some in the eyes, use this tool.
You can either:
1.  Look between the other’s eyes at the Bridge of Their Nose.

2. Or keep you eyes moving in a triangle. Move your eyes from The Left side of the face (near the ear) over to the right side of the face. Then move look down to the chin. 

Repeat back to the starting point on the left side of the other’s face.

If comfortable it give a warm feeling when you make direct eye contact for a few moments at a time.

You do not have to continue speaking with anyone. Just say I’ll catch you later I want to chat with a friend etc.  Talking with Someone You Do Not Wish to creates tension. Learn different ways to gently get away and move on to someone else. 

Idea: saying: This was Enjoyable but I Promised SomeoneThat I Would Meet with Them here, talk to you later.

Marci says: Solid vs. Limited Connections:
Promise Yourself to Make at Least 3 Solid Connections for: Work, Socialization or Romance & Keep Your Word to Yourself.

Audrey says one technique that helps really shy people is to create a goal for the event. 
Start with a really small goal.
Goal: I’ll just set the goal to say hi to 3 people.  This way no matter how the event turns out you can be proud for completing the goal and saying a quick hi to 3 people.

One of her clients actually came back from an event after using this technique and surprised himself when he realized he had not only say hi to three people, he had actually talked to almost everyone at the event.   

For Marci talks about making connections of Quality Over Quantity. 

Energy Exchange: Someone Gives Off Good Energy.

Relaxed vs. Anxious Body Postures
Body Language: Is A Person Opened or Closed?
Is Someone’s Arms Crossed or Not? This doesn’t mean they are closed, perhaps they are also nervous, or cold or don’t know what to do with their hands.

Have A Goal or Goals
Attaining A Goal is A Win
Winning Provides Motivation for Leaving Home the next time.

Anxiety & Fear: Comes From Reactions and Triggers From Older, Negative, Bad Memories. Old Programs, trigger the mind at an unconscious Level.

Anxiety is Not Your Fault! It is due to negative programs that are running in the background of the mind.

Understand & Know How The Mind Works.
Conscious
Unconscious
Trigger Emotions.

Pay Attention to & Notice How Your Body Feels

Secret # 1: Different Emotions Effect Different Parts of The Body.

Secret # 2: Past vs. Future Events
Be Aware of Your Thoughts about The Past. Past events can often be related to Bad Memories.

What If thoughts are typically future related – and usually create anxiety. 

Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,


Comments are closed.

Designed by NattyWP Wordpress Themes.
Images by desEXign.