Anxiety Control Center

In this post I’ve combined a number of email’s  from my online coaching students.  They have been learning and enjoying the benefits of using the mind in a positive, enhancing way, as the excerpts below will show.  For me as their teacher and mentor it brings me so much joy as I watch them move from feelings of anxiety, self blame and depression to blossoming as they find their wonderful inner capabilities. Over the past weeks as we work together there are so many other benefits as my students are learning to find there inner voice and are learning to accept the positive things in themselves.

Instead of repeating many of the similar positive statement I’m posting a collage of some of the emails that I feel will be of interest.  I looking forward to hearing from all my readers and student with your comments, questions, concerns or just a hello to let me know you are out there.

Student email collage excerpt:

Hi Audrey.
I know why now I wasn’t giving myself credit.  When someone criticizes constantly they fail to see the good in things.

As you know I’ve been working on releasing old negative messages and replacing them with positive, enhancing statement.  Over the weeks that I’ve been coming to your coaching sessions, I’ve found that I have been able to let to of old criticisms.  Especially those from my “friend” who used to constantly criticize me.  If almost seems as if this new positive “habit” is working without any effort.  My subconscious helped me to take my ex-friend that constantly criticized me out of my head about a month ago.

I now am using your words about “giving myself credit” even if it seems like a small “win”.  This came into play a few days ago.

Okay, so  I realize that I’ve made many mistakes and still make mistakes.  But, the great thing is that now I can also admit that I’ve done good deeds, selflessly. I know it is amazing that I had such a hard time allowing myself to see my positives.  I’m now beginning to recognize that my accomplishments also deserve credit, no matter how small they are.  And the most positive thing is that as I give myself credit my depression is lifting, and I feel more courage to do things.

The other tip that I am putting into place in my life if what I took that from what  you said when you told us “if worrying solves the problem then worry, but if you done all you can, then worry serves no further purpose”. Thanks Audrey, for your wise insights.

All the techniques, skills, and your insights are like seeds planted in our minds…  when we add water to the seeds they are able to grow and florish. (I’m paraphrasing)

I’m beginning to understand how to balance the parts I like and don’t like.  It makes me feel more self worthy. For example. I recognize that I have not been able to give financial support to my family or friends.  I havn’t been able to visit with them because of my agoraphobia, but, I now can give myself credit as I recognize the “good” I have done.   I have given them my time over the phone, offering guidance, and reaching out for them where it mattered the most, emotionally and spiritually.  Yes, I now say to myself  even though I wasn’t there physically, I was there emotionally and spiritually.

You better believe I’m giving myself credit now. Once I started to recognize the good, I remembered that I also there was a time when I was there physically…there was a time in my life that I did travel by myself and helped others in person. Thank you for getting me back on the positive track.

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Continued from July 1st post:

Why would a person want to use hypnosis for anxiety, panic or stress relief?   One reason is that hypnosis works quickly, even with long standing issues.  You might wonder how hypnosis helps?  Hypnosis helps you to go into an inner directed state, also called a trance state.  The trance state enables you to gain access to you own very powerful unconscious mind.

Since I specialize in helping people with anxiety, panic, and phobias and most of these people do not want to feel out of control. I use a type of hypnosis where my clients can be in total control, even when in a “trance” state.  Even while awake and aware a person can use self-hypnotic techniques to get to the very root where the patterns of reacting with anxiety and panic, are stored.

You might be wondering why it is important to use a trance state.  For most people the programs that determine our reactions to life are set up before the age of 6.  Since we have gained more information since the age of 6 it is worthwhile to be able to access and correct programs that aren’t working anymore. In order to do this hypnosis is used to develop an inner directed or trance state.

You can learn how to easily get into a trance state.  The easiest way to start the process is to change your breathing pattern.  As you can do this easy breathing pattern it helps you to shift effortlessly into a trance state.

If you would like to receive the instructions for the breathing pattern
go to www.actionendsprocrastination.com
You can watch the video showing this technique
or sign in for the written directions.

Would you like to have the opportunity to be coached by
one of the top hypnotherapist at the Anxiety Control Center?
Learn how at
actionendsprocrastination.com
while you are there take a moment to receive your
free copy of 2 mind calming exercises.

Audrey Sussman, PhD, LCSW, LMHC, NBCCH
is a hypnotherapist with offices in Cherry Hill, NJ and NYC.
She specializes in helping people to get relief from
panic, anxiety and stress.
Her years of research and practice led to her development of
the Transformation System
which combines Cognitive and Behavioral therapy,
with Neuro-Linguistic Programming
and two types of Hypnosis for almost “magical” relief.

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This email came in from one of my online coaching students. As I replied to her I thought I would post my answer and see what my readers thoughts are on this topic.

It was interesting to me that the key to her procrastination might lie in the information she gives about her feelings.  As you read her questions see if you can hear what might be going on for her.  Perhaps it isn’t a lack of motivation.  Look for my response to see how I re-framed this problem.   Do you agree with my advice, do you think you would give different advice.  I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts.

Question from online coaching student: I would like to be more clear about my concerns of lack of motivation. Something as  simple as going to get just a glass of water, and I’ll procrastinate to get it. I know what my feelings are because I’m aware of my thoughts.

Lately I’ve been feeling sad because nobody really looks out for me, they don’t include me in their world. Audrey what can I do to reverse feeling so lonely and alone. And I feel so bad that I would like to take my children out, but I feel lack of self confidence to do that, because of the worry about anxiety and panic.

I’m working on doing what you asked and looking for what is going on underneath, so I can discover what am I telling myself that’s creating the negative feelings. I feel like I’m on a stand still.

I’m also starting to feel jaded.

Audrey’s answer: Dear   _______,  we will certainly work on these issues in class in 2 weeks.  But until then I have a few thoughts that you might want to play with. Actually you are doing a great job of “listening” to your thoughts that are creating the feelings. As you know that is the first step.

First thought that I hear:  “No one looks out for me.”

Second thought:  “They don’t include me in their world”

Yes, that would make anyone sad, I know it feels like that, interesting thing is that the “others” you are thinking about might just have a different point of view or reason for doing what they do or don’t do.  We’ll talk about “mind reading” and stories in our next session. I’ll give you the step by step directions for changing stories that hurt, to other “possible” stories that feel better and are better for you well being.  This is just a short glimpse, so for now you can just think about what I am saying.

Here is something you can do right now, this very day:  I want to ask you to do this little experiment.  Instead of thinking or telling yourself that you lack motivation: I’m gong to use the getting a glass of water issue that you label lack of motivation and procrastination.   Ask yourself, what am I feeling that I won’t  go get a glass of water?  (do your best not to analyze it for now)

Want to learn how to create a “filter” so you can
automatically filter out harmful “thoughts”
Would you like to learn how to stay centered and calm?
Begin today by downloading your first “tool” for
getting your own mind into a calm receptive state.
And then join us for the coaching class that shows you how.

Sign in at the top right side of this page

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
1. A powerful breathing exercise
to change your state of mind,
2. A second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like to learn
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

Our next class is on
July 15,  2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a part
of 
this supportive online community.

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I decided to share some of the Action Steps I’m working with on my students in the Online Coaching class.  I hope you find them helpful.  If you have questions sent the to me here.  If you would like to join us there is still room for 2 more students. You also be getting the added a bonus session with an associate of mine who is a impressive energy healer, she be showing you how to use your own energy to create healing.

Here a part of the Action Plan, I’ve sent to my coaching students.

A  In order to get the most from this workshop we want to set up the baseline for the challenges and issues you face.

B  Step One: List all the challenges or emotions that are getting in your way:

1. Use specific situations:
2. Examples of challenges: fear, sadness, anger, panic attacks, low self esteem, social phobia, fear of speaking in public, fear of needles, test anxiety, flying, etc

3. Make sure you state the details of the situation, not just the emotion.
a. Where does this problem occur?
b.  Who is there in the situation.
c . What specifically is happening in the situation.
d.  What are you saying to yourself, see if you can “catch” the thoughts moving through your mind when you think of the situation?

This is an important exercise. You can do it quickly or take your time. The important thing is to have something written down.  In this class we will be working on one of the top 3 issues you choose to work on.

In our next class on June 23rd I’ll give you the questions to help you focus inward. We’ll use these questions to get to the real desires, and to unearth things that is getting in the way of you achieving your goals.

For now just write down you list and pick 3 that you want to work on.  I’ll show you how to use the information in the next workshop.  This is an important piece of the blueprint for change from the Transformation System used at the Anxiety Control Center.

Benefits of setting a baseline:

C  When you set up a base line of challenges and issues you get 3 benefits
1. Choices will become clearer.
2.  You will feel more in control, by having a place to start.
3.  You will be able to measure the changes that happen.

Want to learn how to create a “filter” so you can
automatically filter out harmful “advice”
Would you like to learn how to stay centered and calm?
Begin today by downloading your first “tool” for
getting your own mind into a calm receptive state.
And then join us for the coaching class that shows you how.

Sign in at the top right side of this page

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
1. A powerful breathing exercise
to change your state of mind,
2. A second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like to learn
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

Our next class is on
July 15,  2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a part
of 
this supportive online community.

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The following posts are from  award winning writer Jake Krueger.  There were written for his writing students, I’m including them here because if you change just a few words, they apply to stress caused by what other people say.  You’ll see in (italics) my changes.

If you would like to read more from Jake about tips for writers and actors, then please sign in on the right side of this page,  and then click here go to his web site. By signing in you will receive 2 powerful stress relief exercises.

Good Notes (Advice) And Bad Notes (Advice)

As good as it feels to receive praise (and sometimes even helpful advice) about our scripts (what we should do), we have to be extremely careful about who we take feedback from.

When writers (family and friends) try to solve each other’s scripts (life issues), they many times end up doing more harm than good.

Over the next week, Jake will be adding a series of posts about how to give feedback (advice), not only for other writers (people), but also for yourself.   Make sure to come back and check them out.

It’s easy for most writers (people)  to identify a obviously terrible note (advice).  The real danger occurs with the ones that often seem to be the most intelligent.

Want to learn how to create a “filter” so you can
automatically filter out harmful “advice”
Would you like to learn how to stay centered and calm?
Begin today by downloading your first “tool” for
getting your own mind into a calm receptive state.

Sign in at the top right side of this page

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
1. A powerful breathing exercise
to change your state of mind,
2. A second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like to learn
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

Our next class will start on
June 9th,  2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a part
of 
this supportive online community.

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There are many different techniques that can be used to stop the worry cycle.  The last few posts discussed behavioral and cognitive techniques.  The most powerful way to stop the worry cycle is in  the emotional part of the cycle.

Remember in the last few post we talked about the 3 ways stress is created.

1. The physical part of the cycle is where your heart rate increases, or you feel your stomach churning. To get a (physical) Technique to stop Worry go to the right of this page.

2. The cognitive part of the cycle is where your thoughts are racing and worrisome thoughts lead to the emotional part. You will also receive a (cognitive) Technique to stop Worry by signing in at the right of this page.

3.  The emotional part of the stress/worry cycle leads to the feelings of fear, anxiety, guilt, or anger. This is also the part of the cycle that “feeds” the other parts as we feel bad about what is happening to us.

And these three parts cycle around and around, increasing worry and fear.

To get true relief from worry we need to release repressed emotions.  Clients say that after using emotional/hypnotic techniques they feel like a suitcase has been removed off their back.

These types of techniques usually involve the help of someone trained in hypnotherapy and NLP. Using these powerful techniques helps you to  tap into unconscious information so you can get to the root of where the issue and quickly change limiting beliefs and old patterns.

To get help with any of the three part of the worry cycle we offer an online coaching course.  The information and link for this is at the bottom of this post.  But to start you can get the instructions for 2 techniques.

Start changing your worry habit today
by downloading your first “tool” for
changing worry.

Sign in at the top right side of this page.

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
Start with the breathing exercise
to change your state of mind, and then use the
changing second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like more coaching on
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

Our next class will start on
June 9th,  2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a part
of 
this supportive online community.

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