Anxiety Control Center

The following is a question I received from one of my clients.  It mirrors what so many people with anxiety feel that I decided to give a technique that I haven’t talked about in a while.  It is different type of solution and one that is worth using.  The people who have experimented with it find that after a couple of weeks they wouldn’t go without using this exercise.

The following question is what spurred my answer. Names and events are changed slightly to protect confidentiality. This client is grieving over the illness and death of his dad. He is also dealing with possible life changing issues in his relationship.

Hey Audrey. I’m having a bad morning. . . woke up thinking about my father, my heart pounding and tears in my throat. Have had a series of  dreams this week leaving me feeling uncomfortable when I wake up.

In addition to that, I spoke Amy on Fri about the baby stuff, and even though she said she has no plans of leaving  I still want us to want the same things, so I’m finding that I’m almost pressuring myself to want a child.  I guess I don’t know what to do with myself  all I want to do is talk to someone, but it’s early in the morning and everyone is asleep.  Let me know if you have any insight. Thanks.

Hello Peter:  It’s good you are writing out your thoughts in an email to me. I have an idea that you might find helpful.  When we get together for our session we’ll work on the sadness and fears, using the trance techniques I spoke about last session.

It might be of help at this time to begin to write “morning pages”.  These are pages you write in a journal every day.

In the book the Artist’s Way by Camerion, she describes this completely.  For now, just write 3 pages a day.
In these  3 pages you write what ever comes into your mind. She recommends doing it  just as you are waking up.
Three pages about anything and nothing.  You will be amazed at how helpful these pages can be.  You don’t try to make sense,or even keep things to a topic. You just write.  It’s just writing your thoughts, the insight will come on its own.

In this way you find within yourself the strength you need.  It comes with time, don’t try to write or edit, just write. These pages are just for you, not to show to another, no need to read them over, it’s the writing without any censoring that will lead you to gaining what you need.

Buy yourself a note book or journal that you will save just for the morning pages.  I know when you are upset it is difficult to see the way,
trust it is within yourself and I do believe the morning pages will be a great benefit.

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The following email came in from one of my online coaching students.  In each coaching session we add techniques to the ones already learned.
In this email the student is talking about how she combined two of the techniques.

The first is the floating above technique that I taught my students in the first session, this technique is from Time Line techniques for releasing emotions and seeing things from a new perspective.

The second technique was practiced in session 8 “talking to the parts” which teaches how to get to the positive intention of the different parts of ourselves.     It is always so gratifying to hear how my students are making the techniques work for them.
The following is a part of the email sent to me by this very creative student.

Hi Audrey,
The floating above technique gave something to me. Now I understand why you said we’ll be looking at our memories without “getting in them.” I can now look at my “younger self” with the perspective of the adult self…  I also use the “floating above” technique  before I come down to talk to the different “parts” like you did in the talking to the parts exercise. Thank you Audrey for putting me on the road to freedom.

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Continued from post 6:

Take a moment to listen to the thoughts going through your mind.

When an uncomfortable emotion seems to come out of the blue, there is always a trigger.  The following are just a small sample of thoughts that “take you down.”  ““You won’t do it good enough”
“You don’t know enough”
“Others can do it better”
“People will think I’m stupid,”
“What if I fail”
“What if I have a panic attack”

. . .  and on and on they go, one thought leading to other even more negative, scary ones.

There are ways to change the “programming” that causes  these types of thoughts.  We’ll start in the next post with the easiest to use skills that hypno-therapists teach their clients to use. You can learn to use techniques from Neuro-Linguistic Programming to change the feelings that negative thinking creates.

When you learn these skills you will be amazed at how just a simple change can take the “sting” out of the words.

Of course there are deeper roots that cause these thoughts.  They can be re-programmed for even more life enhancing results, for that a hypno-therapist trained in these techniques will be helpful.  So, for now we can start with what you can do immediately.

As you begin to hear the “voice” in the back of your mind notice the next 4 things listed below:

To be Continued in post 8

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This is the third post in the creating self-confidence series.

Can you imagine how different it would be for you if you were fortunate enough to have someone there to point out the good parts of your efforts.  Someone to say that you’re OK even if things didn’t go as planed, or to look at something positive you learned.  Imagine that you had someone to be supportive and believe in you, NO MATTER WHAT.

Even our well meaning parents and care takers don’t typically say “go out and take some risks today.”  They more often warn you that if you don’t put on your coat you’ll catch a cold, or they remind you of of all the things you need to do to keep “safe”.    Can you imagine instead, a voice reminding you that you have what it takes.  This is something you can learn to do for yourself.

We end up taking on the negative”voice of fear we learned as children.  And this “voice” will to chip away at your self-confidence as it picks on any weakness it finds in your “armor” That is why even very successful people will at times find that little voice running, causing fear and self-doubt.

to be continued tomorrow. . .

Would you like to learn how to stay centered and calm?
Begin today by downloading your first “tool” for
getting your own mind into a calm receptive state.
And then join us for the coaching class that shows you how.

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You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
1. A powerful breathing exercise
to change your state of mind,
2. A second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like to learn to
use other techniques from the Transformation System

go to action ends procrastination

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January 21,  2011.
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Post 3: Anxiety Control Center’s answer to finding happiness.

Don’t search for happiness
focus on the positives and happiness will come.

Today we’ll be looking the the 3rd post in the key’s to happiness series.  It you put these tips to use  you too can gain happiness, no matter what is going on in your life.  Even if you are still suffering from anxiety, or insomnia, or depression these tips can work for you.

Key 1: Is to know that changing our responses to stressors takes some effort.

Key 2: Is to take one tiny step at a time, that is all it takes.

Key 3: Give yourself credit for what you do.

Key 4:. In any situation there is something “positive” you can look at.
Sometimes when we are in a depressed state it is difficult to find things to feel positive about.  So when you are “down in the dumps” begin to search for the smallest things you can find that have some merit. Even in a terrible situation there are small things to wonder about.

For example one client who was depressed and anxious was brooding about the lunch she was eating.  She was blaming herself for not managing her time better so she would have had time to get the food she really wanted.  When a person is depressed the filter they see life through is “dirty and grey.”  This makes everything they look at seem “negative and lousy.”

In this case the client simply started with a truth: the food she had was healthy.  When she stopped berating herself she was able to pay attention to the taste of the food, instead of wishing for something else. When we stay in the present moment we can begin to find joy for even the smallest things.   Enjoy what you have instead of wishing for what you don’t have.  The color of the sky, a kindness someone did for you.  The laugh of a child. Even the wonderful taste of the coffee or tea you’ve had recently.

Finding things to be positive about.  For another client who felt she stuck in life just recognizing that she made a few phone calls and sent a few emails out that morning was something she could begin to give herself credit for.

When we give ourselves credit for small things and find things that are positive, it stimulates us to take the next small step towards our goals.

Continuing tomorrow with Key 5.

Would you like to learn how to stay centered and calm?
Begin today by downloading your first “tool” for
getting your own mind into a calm receptive state.
And then join us for the coaching class that shows you how.

Sign in at the top right side of this page

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
1. A powerful breathing exercise
to change your state of mind,
2. A second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like to learn
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

Our next class is on
January 21,  2011.
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of 
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Today I’ll begin by answering questions many of you have sent in.

Then in the next month I’ll be giving information on tips
for relieving stress in children
and other parenting tools.

Today I’ll begin with a quick answer to the question
“Why use hypnosis ?

What can self-hypnotic techniques do for you.

Why I use hypnosis:   I believe it is vital for quick, lasting change.  I use hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming in all of my programs.

There are many reasons  to learn to use hypnosis and self-hypnosis.  The first is that Hypnosis  opens the doorway to the power of the unconscious mind. The unconscious holds resources needed to change old habits quickly and permanently.  Hypnosis also allows you the ability to tap into inner strengths that are stored in the unconscious.  It can also be used to get to the underlying root and release old emotional “junk”.   When you learn to use hypnosis techniques you can change old negative reactions and limits at the very root of where they started.

In the upcoming weeks I’ll continue to post tips for reducing stress and fear in children.  And will be adding a new section on communication secrets that can make it easy to get your children to listen. Note: These tips work great with adults too.

Looking forward to hearing from you, with questions or comments.

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