Anxiety Control Center

Thank you all for the feedback on our online coaching calls. I’m delighted to hear of your successes. I know we have some time before the next class, so keep the emails flowing on things you want help with.

I just received an email from one of the students in the class.  I’m sure it will resonate with many of you. Here is her question.

Student Question:  I would like a self-hypnosis for patience. I tend to lack patience in certain events and when I want to move from one project to the next.

Audrey’s Answer:  Before we can decide on what type of self-hypnotic technique would be effective in creating more patience, we need to get some more information.  Sometimes a lack of patience is caused by negative self-talk.  For instance telling yourself you “can’t” do it.  Or saying you won’t do it right enough.  Or creating a feeling of overwhelm because you feel the task is too big.

First step is to think back to a situation where you didn’t have “patience”.  What does that feel like when you don’t have patience?  Is it a feeling you get in your body? Your mind? Both?  What are you “saying to yourself?”

I’m going to guess that you are telling yourself something negative about the fact that you are moving from one project to another.  Are you giving yourself a hard time for not sticking to one thing?  Or are you feeling overwhelmed with the task and therefore moving to a different one

The answers to these question will tell us where to go next in getting relief from stress and the feeling of lack of patience with yourself or with the task.

For those not in the class you can start with the “Haaa Breath” to change your state (of mind) in just moments.  For the written instructions go to the upper right side of this page and sign in.  Once you’ve done that, you can go to the online coaching web site to get the video on doing this breath.

At the top navigation bar you can watch the video for breathing for calm.  Just click on the “mind expanding exercise” located on the top navigation bar at the online coaching website. Just click here to get to that site. Or go to www.actionendsprocrastination.com.  To get a copy of the Action Plan for each of the last 3 sessions you’ll find them at the top navigation bar at that site as well.  When you put the cursor over “online workshop” there is a drop down with the action plan’s.

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Continued from July 1st post:

Why would a person want to use hypnosis for anxiety, panic or stress relief?   One reason is that hypnosis works quickly, even with long standing issues.  You might wonder how hypnosis helps?  Hypnosis helps you to go into an inner directed state, also called a trance state.  The trance state enables you to gain access to you own very powerful unconscious mind.

Since I specialize in helping people with anxiety, panic, and phobias and most of these people do not want to feel out of control. I use a type of hypnosis where my clients can be in total control, even when in a “trance” state.  Even while awake and aware a person can use self-hypnotic techniques to get to the very root where the patterns of reacting with anxiety and panic, are stored.

You might be wondering why it is important to use a trance state.  For most people the programs that determine our reactions to life are set up before the age of 6.  Since we have gained more information since the age of 6 it is worthwhile to be able to access and correct programs that aren’t working anymore. In order to do this hypnosis is used to develop an inner directed or trance state.

You can learn how to easily get into a trance state.  The easiest way to start the process is to change your breathing pattern.  As you can do this easy breathing pattern it helps you to shift effortlessly into a trance state.

If you would like to receive the instructions for the breathing pattern
go to www.actionendsprocrastination.com
You can watch the video showing this technique
or sign in for the written directions.

Would you like to have the opportunity to be coached by
one of the top hypnotherapist at the Anxiety Control Center?
Learn how at
actionendsprocrastination.com
while you are there take a moment to receive your
free copy of 2 mind calming exercises.

Audrey Sussman, PhD, LCSW, LMHC, NBCCH
is a hypnotherapist with offices in Cherry Hill, NJ and NYC.
She specializes in helping people to get relief from
panic, anxiety and stress.
Her years of research and practice led to her development of
the Transformation System
which combines Cognitive and Behavioral therapy,
with Neuro-Linguistic Programming
and two types of Hypnosis for almost “magical” relief.

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This email came in from one of my online coaching students. As I replied to her I thought I would post my answer and see what my readers thoughts are on this topic.

It was interesting to me that the key to her procrastination might lie in the information she gives about her feelings.  As you read her questions see if you can hear what might be going on for her.  Perhaps it isn’t a lack of motivation.  Look for my response to see how I re-framed this problem.   Do you agree with my advice, do you think you would give different advice.  I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts.

Question from online coaching student: I would like to be more clear about my concerns of lack of motivation. Something as  simple as going to get just a glass of water, and I’ll procrastinate to get it. I know what my feelings are because I’m aware of my thoughts.

Lately I’ve been feeling sad because nobody really looks out for me, they don’t include me in their world. Audrey what can I do to reverse feeling so lonely and alone. And I feel so bad that I would like to take my children out, but I feel lack of self confidence to do that, because of the worry about anxiety and panic.

I’m working on doing what you asked and looking for what is going on underneath, so I can discover what am I telling myself that’s creating the negative feelings. I feel like I’m on a stand still.

I’m also starting to feel jaded.

Audrey’s answer: Dear   _______,  we will certainly work on these issues in class in 2 weeks.  But until then I have a few thoughts that you might want to play with. Actually you are doing a great job of “listening” to your thoughts that are creating the feelings. As you know that is the first step.

First thought that I hear:  “No one looks out for me.”

Second thought:  “They don’t include me in their world”

Yes, that would make anyone sad, I know it feels like that, interesting thing is that the “others” you are thinking about might just have a different point of view or reason for doing what they do or don’t do.  We’ll talk about “mind reading” and stories in our next session. I’ll give you the step by step directions for changing stories that hurt, to other “possible” stories that feel better and are better for you well being.  This is just a short glimpse, so for now you can just think about what I am saying.

Here is something you can do right now, this very day:  I want to ask you to do this little experiment.  Instead of thinking or telling yourself that you lack motivation: I’m gong to use the getting a glass of water issue that you label lack of motivation and procrastination.   Ask yourself, what am I feeling that I won’t  go get a glass of water?  (do your best not to analyze it for now)

Want to learn how to create a “filter” so you can
automatically filter out harmful “thoughts”
Would you like to learn how to stay centered and calm?
Begin today by downloading your first “tool” for
getting your own mind into a calm receptive state.
And then join us for the coaching class that shows you how.

Sign in at the top right side of this page

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
1. A powerful breathing exercise
to change your state of mind,
2. A second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like to learn
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

Our next class is on
July 15,  2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a part
of 
this supportive online community.

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This is part two about how trying to use positive self talk doesn’t work.   Unless we change the underlying belief that feeds negative feelings it can lead to frustration and self blame.

When Sandi would get down on herself her mom would remind her of all the wonderful things she did.  She’d remind Sandi to say positive messages about herself many times a day.

Unfortunately this backfired.   It seemed the more Sandi tried to be positive the more she felt like a failure.  On top of this she became angry and depressed.  That is when she came in for help.

There are two parts that need to be worked on in order to change negative beliefs.

1. The “program” that is “running” the belief.  We go to the root where the belief was formed to re-program beliefs that hold us back.

2. The habit part – this is where positive statements are effective

The problem with just saying how wonderful you are, or that everything will be all right is that unless the belief is changed they don’t ring true.  For instance if a person has a belief that they can’t do things “right,” no matter how many statements to the contrary, the belief doesn’t change.

Therefore the place to make the change . . .      continued tomorrow.

You can start the process of re-programming your mind
with an easy to learn exercise.
Go to  the upper right side of this screen sign in
and you’ll receive your 1st mind calming exercise.
It will be sent to you as a PDF.

If you’d rather watch a video explaining this mind calming exercise, after you sign in on the right,  go to actionendsprocrastination to watch the video.

While you are there please sign up for our online coaching course
starting in May 2010.
Looking forward to meeting you when you join this online coaching group

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It’s amazing the things I hear every day in such common places as restaurants, bookstores, or even in the doctor’s waiting room.  There are so many people out there who suffer from panic attacks or know someone who does.  Just the other day, I overheard a conversation between a few women, one of whom couldn’t go over the Benjamin Franklin bridge because of her intense, uncontrollable FEAR.

Being someone who specializes in helping people with Anxiety disorders, I wished I could just go over and tell her that help is available.  I tried to think of a way to slip her a card without intruding, but there was no appropriate way I could think of to do it.  So, I left without saying a word.  The Anxiety Control Center is a place where people can go to get help.

Panic disorder can take many forms.  Its victims may be afraid to leave their home, to go up high, to drive, to eat in public, to take tests, or any combination of these and other fears.  For people suffering with panic attacks, even doing everyday task such as shopping can feel like a life and death situation.

The first step in getting relief from panic attacks is to realize that something is triggering them.  They do not come “out of the blue”, even though it might feel that way.  You are not going crazy, and many intelligent, creative people suffer from panic attacks.  And most importantly you can learn how to re-reprogram not only your reactions to the fear but the underlying causes as well.

I will be answering questions that people send in each day for the next 30 days.  I’ll look forward to hearing from you.

If you would like to become a part of the online coaching class where you can learn many different ways to stop panic and anxiety please go to our sister site by clicking on this link.

But before you go there,  please sign up for your first mind calming exercise in the upper right side of this screen.

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Have fun doing this exercise, as you beginning to train your mind to create positive future images.   These images can then be used in later exercises for setting off a “touch anchor” or for another technique call  the “map across.”

So here is your mind-expanding exercise, read all the directions first:

Answer the following Questions:
1. What would a perfect day be like for you?
2. What would you be feeling, seeing or hearing in this perfect day?
3. Put in everything from the smallest stuff to what is happening and whom you are with.

Here is a very important part of how to write this.

1. Write what you are feeling, seeing or hearing as if you are experiencing it right now.

Or
2. You can write it down as if you were looking back, at the end of the day and reporting on what happened.  What you saw, felt, heard.

Present moment example: I am walking in the forest, seeing the sun streaming through the leaves of the trees.  The  smell of the pine needles as they crunch under my feet, is so soothing. And there just a few feet away, there is  a  bird with the most beautiful red color, I can hardly believe I’m lucky enough to be in this place at this time, and my best friend walking next to me.  . . .     (present tense).

Or I spent the most wonderful day, it was so perfect for me because I started out not even knowing that I would see the most beautiful sights, and find joy in a simple walk . . . .   (As if the event has already happened)

As you describe the perfect day step into it, be there, feel the feeling, see what there is to be seen.  Notice what happens in your body as you act “as if” you are in the event.

Please take action and write it down first. In this way you make sure it is set in the present as if you are experiencing it.  Or as if you are “in it” once again as you remember the day from the end of the day.

But, even just “thinking” about and being in the most beautiful day creates a change in your state.  You’ll find that when you actually take the action of doing this exercise your unconscious will hear it as if it is happening and your “state of mind” can shift as if you actually just had a positive day.    Many people notice an immediate shift in their energy level after dong this exercise.  Notice which way has more power for you writing or thinking about it in the present tense or  writing or thinking about it as if it already happened.

To get more information on the online coaching group.  Go to action ends procrastination.

Hope to have you join us in this journey of self discovery.

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