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Hypnosis Fact and Myth: Excerpts from a seminar given by Audrey Sussman for new practitioners of hypnosis.

Yesterday we were talking about using the preferred system to get into a trance easily.  So you might be wondering how this  information is used in creating a trance state. For each system (A,V,K) the hypnotist would use words that are either visual, auditory or kinesthetic.  Once the client is in a trance state we use a combination of all three, for the most effective work.

Here is a very short sample of words that might be used in a hypnotic induction for a person who is primarily Visual:  For a visual the hypnotist using a typical Classical method might say something like this. . .  imagine a light all around you. . .   just continuing breathing  . . without trying to make any thing happen . .  and with your next breath . . .  notice the color of the light that you are breathing. . .    and with each breath you can let this color to fill you  . . .   creating a healing or a sense of peace with every breath you take .  . .  .

Sample hypnotic induction for person using Auditory words:
Even though we all can to some extent use each of the three, see (visualize), hear (auditory) and feel (kinesthetic). For a person who is auditory  the hypnotist might say   . . .  as you take your next breath, focus in on the sound of each exhale. . . just breathing normally allow yourself to hear the slight sound with the release of the breath . . . and the unconscious mind likes that sound for it creates a sense of . . .

Sample hypnotic induction for person who is comfortable with Kinesthetic:  And for the kinesthetic person who uses feeling as their lead system the hypnotist might say. . .  as you take your next breath, not trying to make anything happen at all, just begin to notice the very small difference in temperature as the breath moves in. . . and out. . .   in . . . and out. . . just paying attention to the tip of your nose. . . as the air move in on the inhale notice if it is cooler on the inhalation and warmer on the exhalation. . . This is a very fine distinction . . . so just notice it or not . . .   and as you are paying attention to your breath . . . you can begin to feel a lightness . . .

Knowing about the Auditory, Visual and Kinesthetic ways of procession is part of what you learn when you study Neuro-Linguistic Programming.   Of course there are many ways to use Neuro-Lingusitic programming.   This is just a very simple example of the vast uses for NLP.

This is my simple and quick definition of NLP : “N” stands for Neuro (or neurology)  “L” stands for Linguistic (or language part of NLP)  and “P” stands for programming. NLP is a way of using language to program (or reprogram) what we want into our neurology (body reaction).

Knowing NLP and combining it with hypnotic techniques gives you  a wide range of ways of using your mind, and helping others to use theirs.  If you’d like to read a really good book on this subject look fro Using Your Brain for a Change, by Richard Bandler and John Grinder.  It can be useful at any level of training from the complete newcomer to NLP to the more advanced practitioner. NLP can be used in sales, in negotiation, with children to gain the rapport you need to have people listen.

As a hypnotherapist as you continue to study the mind.  Becoming aware of  purposefully using all three  modalities, Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic in your work  gives you a very powerful way of helping people to create change.

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Today I’ll begin by answering questions many of you have sent in.

Then in the next month I’ll be giving information on tips
for relieving stress in children
and other parenting tools.

Today I’ll begin with a quick answer to the question
“Why use hypnosis ?

What can self-hypnotic techniques do for you.

Why I use hypnosis:   I believe it is vital for quick, lasting change.  I use hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming in all of my programs.

There are many reasons  to learn to use hypnosis and self-hypnosis.  The first is that Hypnosis  opens the doorway to the power of the unconscious mind. The unconscious holds resources needed to change old habits quickly and permanently.  Hypnosis also allows you the ability to tap into inner strengths that are stored in the unconscious.  It can also be used to get to the underlying root and release old emotional “junk”.   When you learn to use hypnosis techniques you can change old negative reactions and limits at the very root of where they started.

In the upcoming weeks I’ll continue to post tips for reducing stress and fear in children.  And will be adding a new section on communication secrets that can make it easy to get your children to listen. Note: These tips work great with adults too.

Looking forward to hearing from you, with questions or comments.

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The following post is from a note that came from one of my amazing clients.  She is the mother of a beautiful 3 year old and had used what she has learned in therapy to help her own child.  When she told me about how she dealt with her daughter’s fear I asked her to send in her story so others could benefit from it too.

I believe that what she had to say is so powerful that I’m posting it today.  Parents may find her story useful as they help their own children deal with fear of the dark.  It can also be  individualized  to help with other specific fears.  Thank you “J”  for sending this in.

The following is the note from “J”:
“I used to believe my panic was brought on by the changes in weather.  Night time also used to bring with it terrible anxiety.  Whenever it was a rainy or cloudy day, my panic was at its best (meaning worst).  During thunderstorms, I my anxiety was off the charts. Actually in any weather, other than sunny, I felt “unsafe”.

After working with Audrey, so much of my fear has lifted.   I now can say that I truly know I am OK no matter the weather.  In actuality the weather had nothing to do with my panic, even though at the time it seemed to control me.

Here is what happened that stimulated me to create a story that would help my daughter deal with her fear of the dark.  One evening while driving, my 3yr old daughter said, “Mom, I don’t like the night. It’s scary.”  When I heard those words, I began to feel sad that my sweet little daughter was dealing with fear and anxiety.  And I could feel a rumbling of the old fear I used to have,. But this time, instead of continuing with all types of fearful thoughts, (like I would have done before changing the way I deal with fear,)  I decided to turn it into a positive story where both my daughter and I both felt safe.  This story just seemed to bubble up out of my mind and this is what I said to my daughter.

“Honey, night time doesn’t need to be scary, because it is just as beautiful as the day time.  At night, we get to see the moon and talk with the stars . . .  During the day . . .  the Sun likes to come out to play. . .

Sometimes . . .  the clouds say to the sun . . .  “Ms. Sun, you’ve had your fun . . . now it is our turn to come out and stay. . .   The rain is wonderful and it likes to wash away dirt and clean the air.  . .  Thunder and lightening, give us a drum and light show in the sky. . .   No matter what the weather or time of day, you can create a place you like to be. . .  And if you are scared, you can talk to g-d. G-d . . .  who will always be there to listen. . .   and if you ask g-d to send a calming light you can feel safe. . . all you need to do is imagine this light all around you . . .   and as it is all around you all you need to do is breath it in and notice how different that feels, knowing all is well.”

My daughter LOVED this story and it helped ME as I told it to her as well!”

Again, thanks for this great note.  I welcome everyone’s thoughts and I am happy
to post helpful stories and comments like the one above.
Looking forward to hearing from you too.

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1.  Are some people more prone to worry than others?

There are many reasons for the different ways people respond to the world they live in.  An event that hardly creates a ripple in one person’s life, can completely distress another person.  People react differently because of the filters, beliefs and the way they interpret events.  A person’s past experiences will “color” their current interpretation and reactions to events.

2.  What is the purpose of worry?  Is it ever a good thing?

Let’s look at the positive purpose of worry.  Worry can serve a positive function when it prepares you for possible future difficulties.  It can alert you to things that need to be taken care of, or of consequences of certain actions.  Worry can keep you watchful for symptoms that indicate a possible life-threatening problem, or it can motivate you to take care of something that needs to be done.

3.  How do I know when worry is no longer useful?

Sometimes worry is a fleeting feeling of concern which is just a part of being a parent trying to protect your child from harm.  For parents of children who have special needs it is understandable that worry can take on a whole new meaning. The reality is, that your child has to overcome additional hardships and you are dealing with the extra stress that comes with wanting to protect your child and at times feeling helpless, not knowing what the future will hold.

But, once you have done everything in your power to anticipate and prepare for possible future problems, worry ceases to serve a positive function.   When your thoughts cycle into negative, scary future possibilities, about things that are outside of your control it is time to learn techniques to stops worry in it tracks.

4.  Are there different techniques that can be used to get relief from worry?  More on this on my next post tomorrow.

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In March 2009, you too can learn to use the power of your own mind in the  “Conquer the Fear that Undermines You”  6 module Home Study Workshop.  This unique workshop will provide a easy to use skills for relieving anxiety, fear and procrastination.  Look for the upcoming details on what will be included in the course next week.

For all the people who have been asking for coaching on parenting,  April’s Home Study Course will provide the blueprint creating a warm loving environment where your children to listen, when you talk.   This is an 8 module course.

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