Anxiety Control Center

Today we’re looking at another technique to relieve fear and panic.   I’m including a happy  email from a student who  is now dealing with panic and fear, in a new and different way.  As you will read she was creative and combined 2 techniques she learned in our coaching workshop.  Her creative use of what she is learning is giving her new ways to feel safe.  Ones that work so much better than fear, panic and anxiety that used to be  a problem.

Note from Student:
Hi Audrey, I love the “parts” technique you taught in our online class.  I  combined the “parts” technique with the “floating above” technique from the first week of class and the results were really  magical.  I kind of “traveled back” to my younger self and showed her how use the parts technique.  We “talked to the “parts” that seemed to be causing a problem of panic.  Then we found a better way of keeping “her” safe.  Such a relief to have choice again.   By the way  I now see how, not being “in it” by “staying above” my time line, helps to change the perspective, and gives me time to think.  It makes me feel more understanding of others and lighter with myself.

What this student is talking about are hypnotic techniques she is now using on her own, to re-program an old negative reactions.  In this short note she is talking about  2 techniques from the Anxiety Control Center’s Transformation System. These techniques are giving her to way to change panic in a specific areas of her life.

So for example when you are having a problem with fear, you might imagine the part that is creating the fear.  Just imagine that there is a part that creates fear. Put your hand out in front of you and imagine that it is sitting in your hand.  When you learn to do this it really is amazing how you can bring out the “parts” of yourself.    I know it seems a bit strange but when you use this technique it makes it possible to find the positive intention behind the fear. It’s like having a conversation with a young child  (part) who doesn’t understand how his or her reactions are effecting the adult (self).

What my clients have found is that when they have a “conversation with the part”  they find that the  “part” is trying to do something positive.  Many times the reason for fear or panic starts out as a positive one, perhaps to keep a person from doing something that would hurt them. Or to keep a person safe. If you’re too fearful to go out the part reasons that you’ll be safe.

Unfortunately panic begins to have a “life of it’s own” and it runs out of control.   Even if the intention is a good one, having fear can create more problems.  And it might not be the best way to keep a person safe. But once we know what the part is trying to accomplish by creating fear, we can begin to find better ways of achieving the goal (keeping the person safe).

The best way to learn how to use the “parts” technique is to experience it.  It is actually very easy to learn  when you do it with someone trained in Ericksonian Hypnosis and NLP.  Once you’ve done it the first time it all becomes very clear.

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Another happy student finds his way to using what used to trigger an anxiety response to a new positive way of “hearing” things.
Hi Audrey,  Just wanted to let you know how the techniques are working for me.  I’m looking forward to the next online coaching class starting.

In the past what others though of me could bring me “up or down” in how I felt about myself.  I converted that and am using it in a more helpful way.   I imagine a “part of myself” and “hear it saying” an “I like the way you dress” and start to get the good feelings.  If I make a mistake instead of coming down on myself I now imagine the “part as a person” saying  “yes, you made a mistake, your human, you’re a good person” and the one I use a lot is the part saying, “I accept and love you even when someone rejects you.”

Now it’s like I’m taking in my opinions about myself (with the perspective of it’s someone else giving their opinions about me), which helps that part of me to feel comfortable and feel accepted no matter what.

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The following email came in from one of my online coaching students.  In each coaching session we add techniques to the ones already learned.
In this email the student is talking about how she combined two of the techniques.

The first is the floating above technique that I taught my students in the first session, this technique is from Time Line techniques for releasing emotions and seeing things from a new perspective.

The second technique was practiced in session 8 “talking to the parts” which teaches how to get to the positive intention of the different parts of ourselves.     It is always so gratifying to hear how my students are making the techniques work for them.
The following is a part of the email sent to me by this very creative student.

Hi Audrey,
The floating above technique gave something to me. Now I understand why you said we’ll be looking at our memories without “getting in them.” I can now look at my “younger self” with the perspective of the adult self…  I also use the “floating above” technique  before I come down to talk to the different “parts” like you did in the talking to the parts exercise. Thank you Audrey for putting me on the road to freedom.

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Continued from post #8

In our last lesson on getting free of self-doubt we paid attention to the thoughts that cause self-doubt or fear.  And then we answered 4 questions  about the thoughts.

People are surprised at the information they collect when they “look” at the  many different elements that make up our thoughts.  You too might have found it interesting to uncover things that you never noticed before.

To review: We noticed the following elements (also called sub-modalities in NLP). There are many different elements to be curious about when “hearing” that move through your mind.  The elements we looked at (how the “voice” in your mind sounded) were:

• Loud or soft voice
• Fast or slow cadence
• Tone of the voice: deep or high pitched.
• Did any pictures surface, that went along with the thoughts.

  Many times repressed memories or “snapshots” surface when looking at self-doubt and fear.    The “pictures” that come to mind, might be in color, or  black and white.   They  might be moving or still images.  The people in the images might be bigger or smaller than life size.

• The elements that make up the pictures and thought are called sub-modalities.  And the elements (sub-modalities)  have an effect on how we feel.

To be continued in the next post #10. .  .  .

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Today we will continue discussing ideas that we use at the Anxiety Control Center.  Then tomorrow we will post more tips from Jacob Krueger. So you find two different approaches in the next few days.  Please let me know what you think of adding information in this way.   Is it helpful or confusing by sending me an email, just click on the word here to go to Audrey’s email.

Another favorite technique we use at the Anxiety Control Center,  is a quick change technique used with Neuro-linguistic Programming.  It is  called a “map across”. Where we borrow the positive feelings we want from one memory and put it into the way we’d like to feel “new memory”.

In this technique we use a light trance state to actually shift the positive “I CAN do it” feelings onto the task we were feeling “I can’t.” The “I can’t” feelings are one of the underlying problems that cause procrastination.

Using this technique feels like you are changing the scenery of  your mind  from  unfriendly, cold,  blustery, uncomfortable, scary, and barren, to a place that feels cozy, exciting, fresh and comfortable. And using this skill of the mind, all of a sudden you feel, and see and even hear the words that cause you to want to move forward.  It sometimes seems like you can hardly wait to do what you had been procrastinating about.  It becomes something we really want to move towards.

Now of course, as you might be thinking this can’t work this quickly.  Well in a way you are correct, it is necessary to clear out old negative beliefs, in order for this technique to “stick” and last.  But it is great to get a glimpse of what is possible. And to know that it is possible to get this type of change quickly.  We’ll discuss this more in the teleseminar coming in January 2010.

The mapping across skill is actually easy to learn and will be discussed in the Teleseminar in January, and taught in the home study course that is coming up in the  February.

The interesting thing about procrastination is that at some point you will do task at hand.   What we are doing in the “re-programing the mind to stop procrastination” workshop is speeding up the process.  We want to get your strategy for not doing something, your strategy for “doing” something and then use the “doing it” strategy as one of the techniques to shorten the process from idea to action.

GIFT: Everyone who has sent questions will receive an invitation to our upcoming seminar  “Re-programing the Mind to Stop Procrastination“. For those of you new to teleseminars, this is an online event that you can listen to by phone or on your computer.  It will be given January 2010.  Details will be emailed to you shortly.

Attendees will have the opportunity to interact “live” with Dr Audrey Sussman.

There are two ways to be invited:
1. Sign up by going to the upper right side of this page, put you name and email and click on the “sign in here” tab.  You’ll also receive a powerful yet easy to learn exercise for calming your mind.

2. Send a question to Audrey, the link blue link, takes you to her email address. Just write down your question and your name and email, and send it off.   We’ll look forward to interacting with you “in person”.

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Before we get into the next post we want to thank you all for your questions. Please keep sending them. They really help us to develop programs that are meaningful.

GIFT: Everyone who has sent questions will receive an invitation our upcoming seminar  “Re-programing the Mind to Stop Procrastination“. For those of you new to teleseminars, this is an online event that you can listen to by phone or on your computer.  It will be given January 2010.  Details will be emailed to you shortly.

Attendees will have the opportunity to interact “live” with Dr Audrey Sussman.

There are two ways to be invited:
1. Sign up by going to the upper right side of this page, put you name and email and click on the “sign in here” tab.  You’ll also receive a powerful yet easy to learn exercise for calming your mind.

2. Send a question to Audrey, the link blue link, takes you to her email address. Just write down your question and your name and email, and send it off.   We’ll look forward to interacting with you “in person”.

Recap of the actions steps:
In the 1st action step you began to look at the thoughts moving through your mind.
In the 2nd action step you began to look “underneath” for patterns.  Many times these patterns were programmed in childhood as coping skills: They are the programs you continue to use in the desire to get relief when turmoil rages within you.
In the 3rd Action Step we began to look at the reasons we avoid, and wrote down the reasons you came up with.

If you look at the things you do, instead of the task at hand, I believe you will notice that some of the things you procrastinate with feel safe.  Others give us a more comfortable feeling, as we moving away from the task.  And some are used to make us feel more in control.

When we choose to do the things we are good at, even though it doesn’t move us forward on the task we are procrastinating about it does put us back into our area of comfort.   And when we are in our area of comfort, we succeed and feel good, which adds to our feelings of security and accomplishment.

One of the skills of moving past procrastination is to harness these “good feelings” so we can access them when needed.  And then we can “borrow” them to use in an area we are less comfortable about. There are a number of ways to do this, one is called anchoring, where we set in a trigger in the unconscious mind that automatically pulls us the positive feelings.  And another favorite technique I like to use I’ll continue talking about tomorrow.

We are still accepting questions for our upcoming teleseminar
on Re-programing the Mind to Stop Procrastination
We will continue posting some ideas in the upcoming weeks.
To send your question just click on the word question it will
take you to Dr. Audrey’s email.
Or just send your name and question to askdraudrey@gmail.com

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