Anxiety Control Center

Thank you all for the feedback on our online coaching calls. I’m delighted to hear of your successes. I know we have some time before the next class, so keep the emails flowing on things you want help with.

I just received an email from one of the students in the class.  I’m sure it will resonate with many of you. Here is her question.

Student Question:  I would like a self-hypnosis for patience. I tend to lack patience in certain events and when I want to move from one project to the next.

Audrey’s Answer:  Before we can decide on what type of self-hypnotic technique would be effective in creating more patience, we need to get some more information.  Sometimes a lack of patience is caused by negative self-talk.  For instance telling yourself you “can’t” do it.  Or saying you won’t do it right enough.  Or creating a feeling of overwhelm because you feel the task is too big.

First step is to think back to a situation where you didn’t have “patience”.  What does that feel like when you don’t have patience?  Is it a feeling you get in your body? Your mind? Both?  What are you “saying to yourself?”

I’m going to guess that you are telling yourself something negative about the fact that you are moving from one project to another.  Are you giving yourself a hard time for not sticking to one thing?  Or are you feeling overwhelmed with the task and therefore moving to a different one

The answers to these question will tell us where to go next in getting relief from stress and the feeling of lack of patience with yourself or with the task.

For those not in the class you can start with the “Haaa Breath” to change your state (of mind) in just moments.  For the written instructions go to the upper right side of this page and sign in.  Once you’ve done that, you can go to the online coaching web site to get the video on doing this breath.

At the top navigation bar you can watch the video for breathing for calm.  Just click on the “mind expanding exercise” located on the top navigation bar at the online coaching website. Just click here to get to that site. Or go to www.actionendsprocrastination.com.  To get a copy of the Action Plan for each of the last 3 sessions you’ll find them at the top navigation bar at that site as well.  When you put the cursor over “online workshop” there is a drop down with the action plan’s.

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For many the thought of being hypnotized is something that causes fear.  What most are fearful of is of being controlled by the hypnotist. In this article you will learn more about what hypnosis can and can’t do.

Although hypnosis can help people to achieve almost magical results, hypnosis itself isn’t magical.  And no hypnotist no matter how well trained can make you do anything that is in conflict with your values.  If you would never want to do something in a conscious state, you will NOT do it in a hypnotic trance.  When you see a stage hypnotist having people act silly, these are people who enjoy being the center of attraction, and would even in a conscious state be willing to do the things the hypnotist suggests.  The reason why they seem to be able to do things they didn’t know how to do normally, is that they are more open to their own potential when in a hypnotic state.

Continued tomorrow:

To receive the instructions for a
breathing Pattern that calms the mind
and gets it ready for entering a trance state.
Go to www.actionendsprocrastination.com
sign in for the video showing this technique as well as written directions.

Would you like to have the opportunity
to be coached by one of the
top hypnotherapists
at the Anxiety Control Center?
go to actionendsprocrastination.com
for information.
Audrey Sussman, PhD, LCSW, LMHC, NBCCH
is  the director of the Anxiety Control Center.
She is a hypnotherapist
with offices in Cherry Hill, NJ and NYC.
Specializing in the relief from panic, anxiety and stress
using the Transformation System
which combines Cognitive and Behavioral therapy,
with Neuro-Linguistic Programming and two types of Hypnosis.

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I decided to share some of the Action Steps I’m working with on my students in the Online Coaching class.  I hope you find them helpful.  If you have questions sent the to me here.  If you would like to join us there is still room for 2 more students. You also be getting the added a bonus session with an associate of mine who is a impressive energy healer, she be showing you how to use your own energy to create healing.

Here a part of the Action Plan, I’ve sent to my coaching students.

A  In order to get the most from this workshop we want to set up the baseline for the challenges and issues you face.

B  Step One: List all the challenges or emotions that are getting in your way:

1. Use specific situations:
2. Examples of challenges: fear, sadness, anger, panic attacks, low self esteem, social phobia, fear of speaking in public, fear of needles, test anxiety, flying, etc

3. Make sure you state the details of the situation, not just the emotion.
a. Where does this problem occur?
b.  Who is there in the situation.
c . What specifically is happening in the situation.
d.  What are you saying to yourself, see if you can “catch” the thoughts moving through your mind when you think of the situation?

This is an important exercise. You can do it quickly or take your time. The important thing is to have something written down.  In this class we will be working on one of the top 3 issues you choose to work on.

In our next class on June 23rd I’ll give you the questions to help you focus inward. We’ll use these questions to get to the real desires, and to unearth things that is getting in the way of you achieving your goals.

For now just write down you list and pick 3 that you want to work on.  I’ll show you how to use the information in the next workshop.  This is an important piece of the blueprint for change from the Transformation System used at the Anxiety Control Center.

Benefits of setting a baseline:

C  When you set up a base line of challenges and issues you get 3 benefits
1. Choices will become clearer.
2.  You will feel more in control, by having a place to start.
3.  You will be able to measure the changes that happen.

Want to learn how to create a “filter” so you can
automatically filter out harmful “advice”
Would you like to learn how to stay centered and calm?
Begin today by downloading your first “tool” for
getting your own mind into a calm receptive state.
And then join us for the coaching class that shows you how.

Sign in at the top right side of this page

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
1. A powerful breathing exercise
to change your state of mind,
2. A second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like to learn
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

Our next class is on
July 15,  2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a part
of 
this supportive online community.

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There are many different techniques that can be used to stop the worry cycle.  The last few posts discussed behavioral and cognitive techniques.  The most powerful way to stop the worry cycle is in  the emotional part of the cycle.

Remember in the last few post we talked about the 3 ways stress is created.

1. The physical part of the cycle is where your heart rate increases, or you feel your stomach churning. To get a (physical) Technique to stop Worry go to the right of this page.

2. The cognitive part of the cycle is where your thoughts are racing and worrisome thoughts lead to the emotional part. You will also receive a (cognitive) Technique to stop Worry by signing in at the right of this page.

3.  The emotional part of the stress/worry cycle leads to the feelings of fear, anxiety, guilt, or anger. This is also the part of the cycle that “feeds” the other parts as we feel bad about what is happening to us.

And these three parts cycle around and around, increasing worry and fear.

To get true relief from worry we need to release repressed emotions.  Clients say that after using emotional/hypnotic techniques they feel like a suitcase has been removed off their back.

These types of techniques usually involve the help of someone trained in hypnotherapy and NLP. Using these powerful techniques helps you to  tap into unconscious information so you can get to the root of where the issue and quickly change limiting beliefs and old patterns.

To get help with any of the three part of the worry cycle we offer an online coaching course.  The information and link for this is at the bottom of this post.  But to start you can get the instructions for 2 techniques.

Start changing your worry habit today
by downloading your first “tool” for
changing worry.

Sign in at the top right side of this page.

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
Start with the breathing exercise
to change your state of mind, and then use the
changing second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like more coaching on
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

Our next class will start on
June 9th,  2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a part
of 
this supportive online community.

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Part II
Step 1:  Think about the negative thoughts that you uncovered and ask yourself the following questions:  continued in the next post.
a.  “What is this thought about?”
b.  “Where is this feeling coming from?”
c.  “What am I trying to accomplish by having these thoughts?”
Be curious about comes to mind as you ask these questions.

Note: For this exercise stay away from questions that start with the word “why” because the “why” question will just lead to conscious answers, and not really be helpful for this exercise.   How you phrase the question is very important in getting answers from you unconscious mind.

Once you have a list of the negative thoughts/stories and you have an idea of what is behind the thoughts, you are ready for the next most important step.

Step 3: Write down two possible positive thoughts or possible positive outcomes for each negative thought you have written down.  The answers to the questions you asked yourself might be of help in forming new more positive thoughts.  You will use these in the last step to replace each negative thought.

What if I really believe that the thoughts I have might come true in the future, is there anything I can do about that?

Both the positive and negative thoughts you create about possible future events are fictional.  The problem with negative thoughts and pictures you create in your mind is that even though they possibly will never happen, the unconscious mind nevertheless accepts them as if they are true.  And you react with fear in the present moment to something that hasn’t even happened.

In just the same way, when you create positive thoughts, the unconscious mind also accepts them as true, creating a very different and more pleasant reaction in the body.

Looking for positive thoughts that can be equally true as the negative ones is a very important step as you begin the process of reprogramming your mind for what you want instead of what you don’t want.

Start today by downloading your first “tool” for
creating changing worry.

Sign in at the top right side of this page.

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
Start with the breathing exercise
to change your state of mind, and then use the
changing second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like more coaching on
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

Our next class will start on
June 9th,  2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a part
of 
this supportive online community.

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There are many different techniques that can be used to stop worry and the stress that results from it.  Choosing the most effective one depends on which part of the stress cycle you are in.  For today we’ll talk about using your thoughts in a different way, this is called the cognitive part of the stress/relaxation cycle.  This is the part of the cycle where we can stop negative thoughts.

The other two parts of the cycle are the physical/behavioral part and the emotional or unconscious part.  I’ll talk a bit more about these other techniques in a later post.

The following is one way to get relief from worry at the cognitive part of the stress cycle.

And the really amazing thing about this technique is that the more you use it the more powerful it becomes.

There are 2 things you need to open use this wonderful technique, the first is an understanding of how the mind works, both on the conscious and unconscious level. And the second is the step-by-step method of creating what you want in your life, instead of what you don’t want

To understand the way your mind works . . .   to be continued in the next post.

Download your first “tool” for
creating changing worry.

Sign in at the top right side of this page.

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
Start with the breathing exercise
to change your state of mind, and then use the
changing second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like more coaching on
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

We still have a few spots left for the class starting May 26th 2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a part of 
this supportive online community.

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