Anxiety Control Center

In this post I’ve combined a number of email’s  from my online coaching students.  They have been learning and enjoying the benefits of using the mind in a positive, enhancing way, as the excerpts below will show.  For me as their teacher and mentor it brings me so much joy as I watch them move from feelings of anxiety, self blame and depression to blossoming as they find their wonderful inner capabilities. Over the past weeks as we work together there are so many other benefits as my students are learning to find there inner voice and are learning to accept the positive things in themselves.

Instead of repeating many of the similar positive statement I’m posting a collage of some of the emails that I feel will be of interest.  I looking forward to hearing from all my readers and student with your comments, questions, concerns or just a hello to let me know you are out there.

Student email collage excerpt:

Hi Audrey.
I know why now I wasn’t giving myself credit.  When someone criticizes constantly they fail to see the good in things.

As you know I’ve been working on releasing old negative messages and replacing them with positive, enhancing statement.  Over the weeks that I’ve been coming to your coaching sessions, I’ve found that I have been able to let to of old criticisms.  Especially those from my “friend” who used to constantly criticize me.  If almost seems as if this new positive “habit” is working without any effort.  My subconscious helped me to take my ex-friend that constantly criticized me out of my head about a month ago.

I now am using your words about “giving myself credit” even if it seems like a small “win”.  This came into play a few days ago.

Okay, so  I realize that I’ve made many mistakes and still make mistakes.  But, the great thing is that now I can also admit that I’ve done good deeds, selflessly. I know it is amazing that I had such a hard time allowing myself to see my positives.  I’m now beginning to recognize that my accomplishments also deserve credit, no matter how small they are.  And the most positive thing is that as I give myself credit my depression is lifting, and I feel more courage to do things.

The other tip that I am putting into place in my life if what I took that from what  you said when you told us “if worrying solves the problem then worry, but if you done all you can, then worry serves no further purpose”. Thanks Audrey, for your wise insights.

All the techniques, skills, and your insights are like seeds planted in our minds…  when we add water to the seeds they are able to grow and florish. (I’m paraphrasing)

I’m beginning to understand how to balance the parts I like and don’t like.  It makes me feel more self worthy. For example. I recognize that I have not been able to give financial support to my family or friends.  I havn’t been able to visit with them because of my agoraphobia, but, I now can give myself credit as I recognize the “good” I have done.   I have given them my time over the phone, offering guidance, and reaching out for them where it mattered the most, emotionally and spiritually.  Yes, I now say to myself  even though I wasn’t there physically, I was there emotionally and spiritually.

You better believe I’m giving myself credit now. Once I started to recognize the good, I remembered that I also there was a time when I was there physically…there was a time in my life that I did travel by myself and helped others in person. Thank you for getting me back on the positive track.

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Continued from July 1st post:

Why would a person want to use hypnosis for anxiety, panic or stress relief?   One reason is that hypnosis works quickly, even with long standing issues.  You might wonder how hypnosis helps?  Hypnosis helps you to go into an inner directed state, also called a trance state.  The trance state enables you to gain access to you own very powerful unconscious mind.

Since I specialize in helping people with anxiety, panic, and phobias and most of these people do not want to feel out of control. I use a type of hypnosis where my clients can be in total control, even when in a “trance” state.  Even while awake and aware a person can use self-hypnotic techniques to get to the very root where the patterns of reacting with anxiety and panic, are stored.

You might be wondering why it is important to use a trance state.  For most people the programs that determine our reactions to life are set up before the age of 6.  Since we have gained more information since the age of 6 it is worthwhile to be able to access and correct programs that aren’t working anymore. In order to do this hypnosis is used to develop an inner directed or trance state.

You can learn how to easily get into a trance state.  The easiest way to start the process is to change your breathing pattern.  As you can do this easy breathing pattern it helps you to shift effortlessly into a trance state.

If you would like to receive the instructions for the breathing pattern
go to www.actionendsprocrastination.com
You can watch the video showing this technique
or sign in for the written directions.

Would you like to have the opportunity to be coached by
one of the top hypnotherapist at the Anxiety Control Center?
Learn how at
actionendsprocrastination.com
while you are there take a moment to receive your
free copy of 2 mind calming exercises.

Audrey Sussman, PhD, LCSW, LMHC, NBCCH
is a hypnotherapist with offices in Cherry Hill, NJ and NYC.
She specializes in helping people to get relief from
panic, anxiety and stress.
Her years of research and practice led to her development of
the Transformation System
which combines Cognitive and Behavioral therapy,
with Neuro-Linguistic Programming
and two types of Hypnosis for almost “magical” relief.

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I decided to share some of the Action Steps I’m working with on my students in the Online Coaching class.  I hope you find them helpful.  If you have questions sent the to me here.  If you would like to join us there is still room for 2 more students. You also be getting the added a bonus session with an associate of mine who is a impressive energy healer, she be showing you how to use your own energy to create healing.

Here a part of the Action Plan, I’ve sent to my coaching students.

A  In order to get the most from this workshop we want to set up the baseline for the challenges and issues you face.

B  Step One: List all the challenges or emotions that are getting in your way:

1. Use specific situations:
2. Examples of challenges: fear, sadness, anger, panic attacks, low self esteem, social phobia, fear of speaking in public, fear of needles, test anxiety, flying, etc

3. Make sure you state the details of the situation, not just the emotion.
a. Where does this problem occur?
b.  Who is there in the situation.
c . What specifically is happening in the situation.
d.  What are you saying to yourself, see if you can “catch” the thoughts moving through your mind when you think of the situation?

This is an important exercise. You can do it quickly or take your time. The important thing is to have something written down.  In this class we will be working on one of the top 3 issues you choose to work on.

In our next class on June 23rd I’ll give you the questions to help you focus inward. We’ll use these questions to get to the real desires, and to unearth things that is getting in the way of you achieving your goals.

For now just write down you list and pick 3 that you want to work on.  I’ll show you how to use the information in the next workshop.  This is an important piece of the blueprint for change from the Transformation System used at the Anxiety Control Center.

Benefits of setting a baseline:

C  When you set up a base line of challenges and issues you get 3 benefits
1. Choices will become clearer.
2.  You will feel more in control, by having a place to start.
3.  You will be able to measure the changes that happen.

Want to learn how to create a “filter” so you can
automatically filter out harmful “advice”
Would you like to learn how to stay centered and calm?
Begin today by downloading your first “tool” for
getting your own mind into a calm receptive state.
And then join us for the coaching class that shows you how.

Sign in at the top right side of this page

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
1. A powerful breathing exercise
to change your state of mind,
2. A second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like to learn
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

Our next class is on
July 15,  2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a part
of 
this supportive online community.

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The following posts are from  award winning writer Jake Krueger.  There were written for his writing students, I’m including them here because if you change just a few words, they apply to stress caused by what other people say.  You’ll see in (italics) my changes.

If you would like to read more from Jake about tips for writers and actors, then please sign in on the right side of this page,  and then click here go to his web site. By signing in you will receive 2 powerful stress relief exercises.

Good Notes (Advice) And Bad Notes (Advice)

As good as it feels to receive praise (and sometimes even helpful advice) about our scripts (what we should do), we have to be extremely careful about who we take feedback from.

When writers (family and friends) try to solve each other’s scripts (life issues), they many times end up doing more harm than good.

Over the next week, Jake will be adding a series of posts about how to give feedback (advice), not only for other writers (people), but also for yourself.   Make sure to come back and check them out.

It’s easy for most writers (people)  to identify a obviously terrible note (advice).  The real danger occurs with the ones that often seem to be the most intelligent.

Want to learn how to create a “filter” so you can
automatically filter out harmful “advice”
Would you like to learn how to stay centered and calm?
Begin today by downloading your first “tool” for
getting your own mind into a calm receptive state.

Sign in at the top right side of this page

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
1. A powerful breathing exercise
to change your state of mind,
2. A second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like to learn
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

Our next class will start on
June 9th,  2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a part
of 
this supportive online community.

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Many people call the Anxiety Control Center each day asking about the Transformation System for relief of many types of issues.    I’ve put together answers to some of the questions people typically ask.

When looking for a hypno-therapist
we hope you choose the Anxiety Control Center
located in NYC and Cherry Hill NJ.

We’ve been working on giving people relief
from anxiety, panic, fear, sadness, procrastination, anger,
migraines and IBS for over 25 years.

We now have a group workshop so you can experience many self-hypnotic techniques, in an easy on the pocket way.   We hope you’ll join our online coaching class.  Perhaps you find it all you need to change old habits, or maybe you can use it as a way of deciding to do one-to-one hypno-therapy with us.   When you click here you will be taken to our information page for the online coaching workshops.

Start to calming your mind, with the first free video.

To get the written version of the breathing exercise
and an exercise to stop negative self talk
go to the upper right side of this page and sign in.

We how you will become part of the wonderful community of people
looking to move ahead without the pain of panic, anxiety and procrastination.

To help you as you decide about doing hypno-therapy we’ve put together some questions and answers.
1.  What kind of therapy is the best?
At the Anxiety Control Center use the Transformation System.  This system uses both Classical and Ericksonian Hypnosis in combination with NLP, and Cognitive and Behavioral therapeutic techniques. We believe that Ericksonian hypnosis & NLP add the “magic” ingredient that enables you to get to  the “root” of the issues holding you back in life.

2. Are there many different types of “tools” in Ericksonian hypnosis?  What if I think my problem is not the “run of the mill” type of issue, is there something that can be done?
The different techniques that I use when working with someone are determined by what the needs of that person are.  We  decided on the goals you want to accomplish together and then you are given many different “tools” you you can choose from to get the results.    Just as you would have many tools in your house repair toolbox, you also want to have different tools for mental repair projects.

3.  Can I ask about techniques before I do them?
You have the right to know what techniques the therapist is going to use.  We have spent years of practice and research in developing a program that we can design if each individual, so we enjoy talking about different “tools” and you get the benefit of experiencing many different skills of healing.

4.  How long will it take?
Although no therapist can tell you exactly how many sessions it will take you do have a right to find out how long before you will start to experience relief. When we talk to you on the phone, we can give you a better idea of how long it might take.

5.  Do I need to set up a session before getting answers about the type of therapy that is used?
One of the most important things is to feel comfortable with the therapist you choose.  We are  happy explain our system to you over the phone.  We don’t get caught up in big words and fancy systems. We explain in language that makes sense, and you will know after talking to one of our therapists if our system feels right to you.  Most importantly, choose a therapist whose system you are comfortable with.  Trust your instincts.  Talk to the therapist on the phone before you have your first appointment.  Most therapists will offer a free telephone consultation to get to know you and to answer your questions.

6.  What if I’m afraid to bother the therapist with my questions?
This is similar to our answer about types of therapy.  It’s important to feel comfortable talking to the therapist.  Look for someone who is knowledgeable, patient and friendly.  This is the most important thing.  You cannot get better by talking to someone who intimidates you.

7.  How soon should I schedule an appointment?  If I have panic attacks how often do I need to come in?
Once you find a therapist with whom you are comfortable, and who feels knowledgeable,  schedule an appointment.  It important to have  guidance in dealing with panic and phobias, how often you set appointment needs to be discussed after your first session.  In the beginning people come in more frequently, and then as they feel better appointments are spaced out.  For some people appointments are set every 2 weeks, others feel more comfortable once a month, and for some every 3 months is just fine.

If you are suffering from Panic, Anxiety, Fear, Anger, Grief, or Procrastination we hope you will call us.  These issues can be released so make sure you get help, there is no reason to suffer alone.

Anxiety Control Center LLC
NY  917-399-2102            NJ 856-751-9446

Don’t suffer for one more minute!  Pick up the phone and call a therapist!

To get the written version of the breathing exercise
and an exercise to stop negative self talk
go to the upper right side of this page and sign in.

We how you will become part of the wonderful community of people
looking to move ahead without the pain of panic, anxiety and procrastination.

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This is part two about how trying to use positive self talk doesn’t work.   Unless we change the underlying belief that feeds negative feelings it can lead to frustration and self blame.

When Sandi would get down on herself her mom would remind her of all the wonderful things she did.  She’d remind Sandi to say positive messages about herself many times a day.

Unfortunately this backfired.   It seemed the more Sandi tried to be positive the more she felt like a failure.  On top of this she became angry and depressed.  That is when she came in for help.

There are two parts that need to be worked on in order to change negative beliefs.

1. The “program” that is “running” the belief.  We go to the root where the belief was formed to re-program beliefs that hold us back.

2. The habit part – this is where positive statements are effective

The problem with just saying how wonderful you are, or that everything will be all right is that unless the belief is changed they don’t ring true.  For instance if a person has a belief that they can’t do things “right,” no matter how many statements to the contrary, the belief doesn’t change.

Therefore the place to make the change . . .      continued tomorrow.

You can start the process of re-programming your mind
with an easy to learn exercise.
Go to  the upper right side of this screen sign in
and you’ll receive your 1st mind calming exercise.
It will be sent to you as a PDF.

If you’d rather watch a video explaining this mind calming exercise, after you sign in on the right,  go to actionendsprocrastination to watch the video.

While you are there please sign up for our online coaching course
starting in May 2010.
Looking forward to meeting you when you join this online coaching group

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