Anxiety Control Center

In this post I’ve combined a number of email’s  from my online coaching students.  They have been learning and enjoying the benefits of using the mind in a positive, enhancing way, as the excerpts below will show.  For me as their teacher and mentor it brings me so much joy as I watch them move from feelings of anxiety, self blame and depression to blossoming as they find their wonderful inner capabilities. Over the past weeks as we work together there are so many other benefits as my students are learning to find there inner voice and are learning to accept the positive things in themselves.

Instead of repeating many of the similar positive statement I’m posting a collage of some of the emails that I feel will be of interest.  I looking forward to hearing from all my readers and student with your comments, questions, concerns or just a hello to let me know you are out there.

Student email collage excerpt:

Hi Audrey.
I know why now I wasn’t giving myself credit.  When someone criticizes constantly they fail to see the good in things.

As you know I’ve been working on releasing old negative messages and replacing them with positive, enhancing statement.  Over the weeks that I’ve been coming to your coaching sessions, I’ve found that I have been able to let to of old criticisms.  Especially those from my “friend” who used to constantly criticize me.  If almost seems as if this new positive “habit” is working without any effort.  My subconscious helped me to take my ex-friend that constantly criticized me out of my head about a month ago.

I now am using your words about “giving myself credit” even if it seems like a small “win”.  This came into play a few days ago.

Okay, so  I realize that I’ve made many mistakes and still make mistakes.  But, the great thing is that now I can also admit that I’ve done good deeds, selflessly. I know it is amazing that I had such a hard time allowing myself to see my positives.  I’m now beginning to recognize that my accomplishments also deserve credit, no matter how small they are.  And the most positive thing is that as I give myself credit my depression is lifting, and I feel more courage to do things.

The other tip that I am putting into place in my life if what I took that from what  you said when you told us “if worrying solves the problem then worry, but if you done all you can, then worry serves no further purpose”. Thanks Audrey, for your wise insights.

All the techniques, skills, and your insights are like seeds planted in our minds…  when we add water to the seeds they are able to grow and florish. (I’m paraphrasing)

I’m beginning to understand how to balance the parts I like and don’t like.  It makes me feel more self worthy. For example. I recognize that I have not been able to give financial support to my family or friends.  I havn’t been able to visit with them because of my agoraphobia, but, I now can give myself credit as I recognize the “good” I have done.   I have given them my time over the phone, offering guidance, and reaching out for them where it mattered the most, emotionally and spiritually.  Yes, I now say to myself  even though I wasn’t there physically, I was there emotionally and spiritually.

You better believe I’m giving myself credit now. Once I started to recognize the good, I remembered that I also there was a time when I was there physically…there was a time in my life that I did travel by myself and helped others in person. Thank you for getting me back on the positive track.

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Continued from July 1st post:

Why would a person want to use hypnosis for anxiety, panic or stress relief?   One reason is that hypnosis works quickly, even with long standing issues.  You might wonder how hypnosis helps?  Hypnosis helps you to go into an inner directed state, also called a trance state.  The trance state enables you to gain access to you own very powerful unconscious mind.

Since I specialize in helping people with anxiety, panic, and phobias and most of these people do not want to feel out of control. I use a type of hypnosis where my clients can be in total control, even when in a “trance” state.  Even while awake and aware a person can use self-hypnotic techniques to get to the very root where the patterns of reacting with anxiety and panic, are stored.

You might be wondering why it is important to use a trance state.  For most people the programs that determine our reactions to life are set up before the age of 6.  Since we have gained more information since the age of 6 it is worthwhile to be able to access and correct programs that aren’t working anymore. In order to do this hypnosis is used to develop an inner directed or trance state.

You can learn how to easily get into a trance state.  The easiest way to start the process is to change your breathing pattern.  As you can do this easy breathing pattern it helps you to shift effortlessly into a trance state.

If you would like to receive the instructions for the breathing pattern
go to www.actionendsprocrastination.com
You can watch the video showing this technique
or sign in for the written directions.

Would you like to have the opportunity to be coached by
one of the top hypnotherapist at the Anxiety Control Center?
Learn how at
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while you are there take a moment to receive your
free copy of 2 mind calming exercises.

Audrey Sussman, PhD, LCSW, LMHC, NBCCH
is a hypnotherapist with offices in Cherry Hill, NJ and NYC.
She specializes in helping people to get relief from
panic, anxiety and stress.
Her years of research and practice led to her development of
the Transformation System
which combines Cognitive and Behavioral therapy,
with Neuro-Linguistic Programming
and two types of Hypnosis for almost “magical” relief.

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For many the thought of being hypnotized is something that causes fear.  What most are fearful of is of being controlled by the hypnotist. In this article you will learn more about what hypnosis can and can’t do.

Although hypnosis can help people to achieve almost magical results, hypnosis itself isn’t magical.  And no hypnotist no matter how well trained can make you do anything that is in conflict with your values.  If you would never want to do something in a conscious state, you will NOT do it in a hypnotic trance.  When you see a stage hypnotist having people act silly, these are people who enjoy being the center of attraction, and would even in a conscious state be willing to do the things the hypnotist suggests.  The reason why they seem to be able to do things they didn’t know how to do normally, is that they are more open to their own potential when in a hypnotic state.

Continued tomorrow:

To receive the instructions for a
breathing Pattern that calms the mind
and gets it ready for entering a trance state.
Go to www.actionendsprocrastination.com
sign in for the video showing this technique as well as written directions.

Would you like to have the opportunity
to be coached by one of the
top hypnotherapists
at the Anxiety Control Center?
go to actionendsprocrastination.com
for information.
Audrey Sussman, PhD, LCSW, LMHC, NBCCH
is  the director of the Anxiety Control Center.
She is a hypnotherapist
with offices in Cherry Hill, NJ and NYC.
Specializing in the relief from panic, anxiety and stress
using the Transformation System
which combines Cognitive and Behavioral therapy,
with Neuro-Linguistic Programming and two types of Hypnosis.

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This email came in from one of my online coaching students. As I replied to her I thought I would post my answer and see what my readers thoughts are on this topic.

It was interesting to me that the key to her procrastination might lie in the information she gives about her feelings.  As you read her questions see if you can hear what might be going on for her.  Perhaps it isn’t a lack of motivation.  Look for my response to see how I re-framed this problem.   Do you agree with my advice, do you think you would give different advice.  I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts.

Question from online coaching student: I would like to be more clear about my concerns of lack of motivation. Something as  simple as going to get just a glass of water, and I’ll procrastinate to get it. I know what my feelings are because I’m aware of my thoughts.

Lately I’ve been feeling sad because nobody really looks out for me, they don’t include me in their world. Audrey what can I do to reverse feeling so lonely and alone. And I feel so bad that I would like to take my children out, but I feel lack of self confidence to do that, because of the worry about anxiety and panic.

I’m working on doing what you asked and looking for what is going on underneath, so I can discover what am I telling myself that’s creating the negative feelings. I feel like I’m on a stand still.

I’m also starting to feel jaded.

Audrey’s answer: Dear   _______,  we will certainly work on these issues in class in 2 weeks.  But until then I have a few thoughts that you might want to play with. Actually you are doing a great job of “listening” to your thoughts that are creating the feelings. As you know that is the first step.

First thought that I hear:  “No one looks out for me.”

Second thought:  “They don’t include me in their world”

Yes, that would make anyone sad, I know it feels like that, interesting thing is that the “others” you are thinking about might just have a different point of view or reason for doing what they do or don’t do.  We’ll talk about “mind reading” and stories in our next session. I’ll give you the step by step directions for changing stories that hurt, to other “possible” stories that feel better and are better for you well being.  This is just a short glimpse, so for now you can just think about what I am saying.

Here is something you can do right now, this very day:  I want to ask you to do this little experiment.  Instead of thinking or telling yourself that you lack motivation: I’m gong to use the getting a glass of water issue that you label lack of motivation and procrastination.   Ask yourself, what am I feeling that I won’t  go get a glass of water?  (do your best not to analyze it for now)

Want to learn how to create a “filter” so you can
automatically filter out harmful “thoughts”
Would you like to learn how to stay centered and calm?
Begin today by downloading your first “tool” for
getting your own mind into a calm receptive state.
And then join us for the coaching class that shows you how.

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You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
1. A powerful breathing exercise
to change your state of mind,
2. A second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like to learn
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

Our next class is on
July 15,  2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a part
of 
this supportive online community.

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This is a continuation of the post on stopping worry from May 16th post.

There are 2 things you need to use this technique to stop worry.
1. An understanding of how the mind works, both on the conscious and unconscious level.
2. And a step-by-step method of creating what you want in your life, instead of what you don’t want

To understand the way your mind works it’s important to know that there are two major ways that people create negative, uncomfortable feelings.
1) Thinking about upsetting past events.
2) Thinking about awful things that might happen in the future

Stress is created when you concentrate on all the possible negative scenarios that have happened in the past or might come about in the future.  The thoughts, pictures and memories that move through your mind trigger feelings of worry, sadness, overwhelm, fear and insecurity.  Thoughts can even create pain in the body.  Sometimes you are aware of the thoughts, and at other times you are completely unaware.

The good news is that you can get relief from even the most painful feelings by learning to change thought patterns that bring them about.

Let’s begin with the 3 steps you will need to start changing patterns of thought that are creating stress and worry in your life. . .    continued in the next post.

Download your first “tool” for
creating changing worry.

Sign in at the top right side of this page.

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
Start with the breathing exercise
to change your state of mind, and then use the
changing second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like more coaching on
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

We still have a few spots left for the class
starting May 26th 2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a
part of 
this supportive online community.

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There are many different techniques that can be used to stop worry and the stress that results from it.  Choosing the most effective one depends on which part of the stress cycle you are in.  For today we’ll talk about using your thoughts in a different way, this is called the cognitive part of the stress/relaxation cycle.  This is the part of the cycle where we can stop negative thoughts.

The other two parts of the cycle are the physical/behavioral part and the emotional or unconscious part.  I’ll talk a bit more about these other techniques in a later post.

The following is one way to get relief from worry at the cognitive part of the stress cycle.

And the really amazing thing about this technique is that the more you use it the more powerful it becomes.

There are 2 things you need to open use this wonderful technique, the first is an understanding of how the mind works, both on the conscious and unconscious level. And the second is the step-by-step method of creating what you want in your life, instead of what you don’t want

To understand the way your mind works . . .   to be continued in the next post.

Download your first “tool” for
creating changing worry.

Sign in at the top right side of this page.

You will get the instructions to 2 exercises.
Start with the breathing exercise
to change your state of mind, and then use the
changing second exercise
to help change negative thinking.

So do this now, download
the easy to learn exercises
by signing in at the upper right side of this page.
You will be sent the written instructions as a PDF.

If you would like more coaching on
using other techniques from the Transformation System
to quiet stress and anxiety
go to action ends procrastination

We still have a few spots left for the class starting May 26th 2010.
Looking forward to you becoming a part of 
this supportive online community.

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