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Feb 24
Finding the underlying issues that fuel procrastination is one of the steps that will lead to changing this dis-empowering habit.
If you procrastinate it is possible that you’ve asked yourself why you procrastinate when it ends up causing stress, overwhelm and bad feelings.
There are a number of reasons people procrastinate and they fall into a few different categories.
You can begin to uncover the underlying reasons by looking at the things you do when you are procrastinating. For example, some people will think about the task at hand, and feel like they need to eat. Other people will feel tired or like energy is draining out of them. Some will not be able to sleep as the mind races with lots of “have to’s”. Although eating or needing to rest doesn’t move us in the direction of getting the task done, it does provide a certain feeling of comfort. Even if later you might regret using that activity to postpone what you “need” to get done.
Both sleeping and eating when stressed fall under the category of comfort. . Sleeping does provide comfort and. eating of course is another way we comfort ourselves.
There are many other things people do when they procrastinate, but let’s look at the need for comfort that is gotten by eating and sleeping. The first step to stop the procrastination habit is to change what isn’t working.
So this leads to the question to ask of yourself. What would you need to provide comfort that would work better than eating or sleeping?
1. Do you need to reassure yourself that you’ll get the task done?
2. Do you need to remember a time in the past when you accomplished a similar task?
3. Is there information that is needed so you can feel more comfortable tackling the task?
4. Is your goal so big that it is overwhelming?
5. Do you need to learn how to set goals in a way that you will move towards them?
According to the answers to these questions you can begin to get a plan of action to help in move you towards your goals while getting comfort.
The second step is to look for the underlying emotion that causes us to need the comfort. Fear is one of those emotions. I just had a client this week that came up with two fears that were underlying his procrastination. The first was feeling of not deserving to be successful, and the second was the belief feeling he could ever measure up. In his case we can see why he might rather do anything else but the task on hand. The underlying issues were fueling his moving away from even beginning the project. It wasn’t about the task at hand it was old beliefs that needed to be re-programmed. This is something that can be done.
One problem with trying to do things without going underneath the surface problem of procrastination is that the problem isn’t on the conscious level. It is held in the unconscious.
To get more information on the online coaching group. Go to action ends procrastination.
Hope to have you join us in this journey of self discovery.
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Feb 23
Question: Why do people procrastinate?
There are a number of reasons people procrastinate, they fall into a few different categories.
You can begin to uncover the underlying reasons by looking at the things you do when you are procrastinating. For example, some people will think about the task at hand, and feel like they need to eat or sleep. Although eating or needing to rest doesn’t move us in the direction of getting the task done, it does provide comfort. Even if later you might regret using that activity.
Both sleeping and eating when stressed fall under the category of comfort. . Sleeping does provide comfort and. eating of course is another way we comfort ourselves.
So this leads to the question to begin to find other ways for gaining comfort.
Question to ask yourself: What would you need to provide comfort that would work better than eating or sleeping?
1. Do you need to reassure yourself that you’ll get the task done?
2. Do you need to remember a time in the past when you accomplished a similar task?
3. Is there information that is needed so you can feel more comfortable tackling the task?
4. Is your goal so big that it is overwhelming?
5. Do you need to learn how to set goals in a way that you will move towards them?
As you answer these questions you can begin to plan on trying new ways of gaining comfort that will move you towards your goals. This is just a short sketch but you get the idea.
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Stopping Fear, Panic, Anxiety
with a focus on Procrastination and Goal setting
go to http://www.actionendsprocrastination.com/workshop
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Feb 21
Feeling Stuck? Secrets to Moving Through Fear, Anxiety and Procrastination
Hello, and welcome. I’m Dr. Audrey Sussman and I would like to invite you to a Free Question And Answer, TeleSeminar l will be giving on February 23, 2010 at 9:10pm. Go to this email address and send your name and email and you will be sent the link for the Fr.ee teleseminar.
If you’re like most people, you’ve struggled with stress caused by procrastination. If you ever feel stuck, or if fear or anxiety ever causes you stress then this TeleSeminar will be the start to opening up to new ways to stop these problems.
DATE & TIME: Tuesday, February 23rd at 9:10 pm Eastern
Cost: F.R.EE
FORMAT: Simulcast! (Attend via Phone or Webcast — it’s your choice)
Get Invited by: Sending you name and email to Audrey
Just click on the link and you will be taken directly to Audrey’s email, you can ask a question your would like answered. A link to the Q & A teleworkshop will be sent to you.
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Feb 21
Once again I’ve gotten a great question about procrastination. So, I’m giving a “snipit”of information in this post. Join my new TeleWorkshop to get your individual questions answered. Just send me you email by clicking here and I’ll send link to the F.ree Q & A online workshop on February 23, 2010 at 9:10 pm.
Or go to action ends procrastination workshop to find out more about the online course to stop panic, fear and anxiety.
Question: Why do people procrastinate?
There are a number of reasons people procrastinate, they fall into a few different categories.
You can begin to uncover the underlying reasons by looking at the things you do when you are procrastinating. For example, some people will think about the task at hand, and feel like they need to eat or sleep. Although eating or needing to rest doesn’t move us in the direction of getting the task done, it does provide comfort. Even if later you might regret using that activity.
Both sleeping and eating when stressed fall under the category of comfort. Sleeping does provide comfort and. eating of course is another way we comfort ourselves.
So this leads to the question to ask of yourself. What would you need to provide comfort that would work better than eating or sleeping?
1. Do you need to reassure yourself that you’ll get the task done?
2. Do you need to remember a time in the past when you accomplished a similar task?
3. Is there information that is needed so you can feel more comfortable tackling the task?
4. Is your goal so big that it is overwhelming?
5. Do you need to learn how to set goals in a way that you will move towards them?
According to the answers to these questions you can begin to get a plan of action ready to help in moving you towards your goals.
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Feb 17
The following is an article written by Audrey Sussman PhD, LCSW, NBCCH, CSL. If you have questions after reading it, please send them to Audrey. Clicking on her name will take you directly to her email.
Recently, when I was snowed in I was flipping through the channels and came across of a new TV show called “Past Life.” This show brings up an interesting concept of whether past lives exist.
In this TV show they accept the premise that not only do past lives exist, but that a traumatic past life experience can be remembered.
The last episode of the TV show was about a young boy who kept getting “flash backs” to a person screaming at “him.” These memories and the fear that went with them made him feel out of control. As I watched the show they did a great job showing how a person in the middle of a panic attack feels. His anxiety attacks were getting in the way of his present life.
The boy was re-living a trauma from a “past life.” And when it happened he had difficulty distinguishing between what was “real” and what was a “flash back.”
Whether or not you believe in past lives, what I have learned as a hypno-therapist is that old memories (ones from our childhood) can and do influence our reactions. In real life (not TV shows) a person may not be aware of these old memories. They might just know that they are feeling anxiety, and not know where it is coming from. That is where hypnotic techniques can be extremely helpful. By going to the part of the mind that stores old memories and releasing old negative “junk” at the root so a person is freed up to move on with life.
I have done regressions with people where they do go to a past life. And I will discuss some of my findings in another article. When old memories and “flash backs” create havoc in a person’s present life, they need to be uncovered and released. Once you are conscious of what is triggering panic and anxiety it becomes possible to change it.
In my practice I use memories a person uncovers, to help to solve present life issues. We don’t have to decide whether the memories are exactly “true”, we act as if they are in order to heal them. In this TV show they have a person, who believes in the boy’s experience. Believing in someone is healing in itself. She doesn’t diagnose him; she uses his flashbacks as information to solve a crime. This is the same concept a hypno-therapist uses, not to judge whether it is true or not, just accept it, as if it is true and use it for a positive healing purpose.
Of course, this “Past Life” TV show has everything is all unraveled in a half-hour. The crime is solved and the boy goes on with his life, relieved of his past life trauma. Even using hypnotic techniques it will take more than 30 minutes, yet I have found that using Hypnosis helps a person to free themselves of trauma, and old limiting beliefs. That is why I was so delighted to see a show that is dealing with the issues of past influencing the present.
Many people have questions and doubt about past life issues. You might wonder if it is even possible to have had a past life. Or if you believe in past life whether a past life can affect present life issues.
There are many ways to release old fear that gets in the way. If you suffer from anxiety, stress, anger or fear. If you procrastinate or use food to gain calm. Or if you would like to put a stop to the negative message that play in your mind, You can learn to use self-hypnosis to get to the root of these issues.
Start by claiming your free copy of our “MIND CALMING Exercise” at the upper right side of this page. Or go to http://www.anxietycontrolcenter.com.
To get information on being a part of our upcoming online workshop on getting relief from fear, anxiety and procrastination: go to http://www.actionendsprocrastination.com/workshop
Audrey Sussman began her quest to find a way to get relief from anxiety and panic after suffering with panic for years. Now she is a nationally recognized seminar leader and author. Years of study and practice lead to her creating the Transformation System for the relief of panic, phobias, migraines and Irritable Bowel Syndrome.
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