Anxiety Control Center

Before we get into the next post we want to thank you all for your questions. Please keep sending them. They really help us to develop programs that are meaningful.

GIFT: Everyone who has sent questions will receive an invitation our upcoming seminar  “Re-programing the Mind to Stop Procrastination“. For those of you new to teleseminars, this is an online event that you can listen to by phone or on your computer.  It will be given January 2010.  Details will be emailed to you shortly.

Attendees will have the opportunity to interact “live” with Dr Audrey Sussman.

There are two ways to be invited:
1. Sign up by going to the upper right side of this page, put you name and email and click on the “sign in here” tab.  You’ll also receive a powerful yet easy to learn exercise for calming your mind.

2. Send a question to Audrey, the link blue link, takes you to her email address. Just write down your question and your name and email, and send it off.   We’ll look forward to interacting with you “in person”.

Recap of the actions steps:
In the 1st action step you began to look at the thoughts moving through your mind.
In the 2nd action step you began to look “underneath” for patterns.  Many times these patterns were programmed in childhood as coping skills: They are the programs you continue to use in the desire to get relief when turmoil rages within you.
In the 3rd Action Step we began to look at the reasons we avoid, and wrote down the reasons you came up with.

If you look at the things you do, instead of the task at hand, I believe you will notice that some of the things you procrastinate with feel safe.  Others give us a more comfortable feeling, as we moving away from the task.  And some are used to make us feel more in control.

When we choose to do the things we are good at, even though it doesn’t move us forward on the task we are procrastinating about it does put us back into our area of comfort.   And when we are in our area of comfort, we succeed and feel good, which adds to our feelings of security and accomplishment.

One of the skills of moving past procrastination is to harness these “good feelings” so we can access them when needed.  And then we can “borrow” them to use in an area we are less comfortable about. There are a number of ways to do this, one is called anchoring, where we set in a trigger in the unconscious mind that automatically pulls us the positive feelings.  And another favorite technique I like to use I’ll continue talking about tomorrow.

We are still accepting questions for our upcoming teleseminar
on Re-programing the Mind to Stop Procrastination
We will continue posting some ideas in the upcoming weeks.
To send your question just click on the word question it will
take you to Dr. Audrey’s email.
Or just send your name and question to askdraudrey@gmail.com

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Hello again, thanks for your patience in waiting for the test.

To show how hard it is to do something just on the conscious level, let’s take this little test.

Test/ Exercise: Right now I’d like you to “tell yourself to relax.”

If you happen to be stressed right now this would be a great time to just stop being stressed or tense and become relaxed.

Or perhaps you might tell yourself to “not to be anxious, stressed, angry or whatever other emotion you are feeling.”

If you are currently thinking about someone who riles you up, tell yourself that next time you will not get upset, no matter what they say or do.” See what happens the next time you see them.

Oh, some of you are already saying that you have tried it this way and it didn’t work to  well.  Well it isn’t your fault, or your lack of motivation that is getting in the way.

The reason we don’t usually have much success with just telling ourselves to “just relax”  or “I won’t be angry” is that the unconscious actually runs this program.  What is stored in the unconscious determines how we will react to present day events. That is why different people react in many various ways to the same situation: different programing.

To use the part of the mind where you can actually re-program things we use. . .

more to come tomorrow:

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This is the 3rd part of the answer to the question about changing stress using the”conscious” part of the mind.

Question: “Is there anyway I can reduce stress without doing self-hypnosis or trance?”

Answer part 3

The answer to your question is yes there are many ways to deal with or manage stress on the conscious level.  There are many books on the subject including some I’ve authored myself.

I believe it is important to know how to stop stress on using all the parts of the mind, conscious and unconscious.

Even positive events can cause a stress reaction.  Most of my research and work is on showing people how to change the internal triggers. The reason I teach people to go to the unconscious is that this is where most habits and reactions, including the reaction of stress comes from. And the unconscious is the place where old “junk” can be released and deep permanent change happens.

Yet, there are many times I teach “conscious” or cognitive exercises for stress relief. If you are on the anxietycontrolcenter site you can find some more information on some of my favorite exercises using the conscious part of the mind on the right side of the screen under the topic Halt panic, irrational fears and Phobias.  Tomorrow I’ll post an exercise to get you started.

We are asking for your help
If you have anxiety, panic, feel stuck or procrastinate, please send us
the single most important question you would like answered.

Every one benefits from the questions you send a question

* By sending in your question you are taking a physical action.

* Taking action is the first step to making a change.

* Your questions  help us to develop programs that are targeted to your needs.

* Questions help others who may not have the courage to ask, or think they are all alone.

To get you started with your question think about this:  If you had access to an expert on reprogramming the mind to get relief from panic, fear or feeling stuck -  what question would you want answered?

Take action and send in your question now.  Just go the contact Audrey tab at the right side of this page, it will take you to Audrey’s personal email address.

Once at the email, you just write in your question and your name and email, and hit send.  To show our appreciation for your questions you will be invited as our guest to the next tele-seminar given my one of the staff of the Anxiety Control Center.

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Question:   Is there anyway I can reduce stress without doing self-hypnosis or trance?

Answer Part 2:
A stimulus that causes stress for one person may not even create a ripple for another person.

What triggers a stress reaction might be outside your awareness. For example an old song playing on the radio can bring back memories of an old love, which then can trigger a reaction.  The reaction can come hours after hearing the song or it can happen so quickly that you don’t even realize what caused the reaction.  The reaction might be positive, or be touched with sadness or anger.

A certain scent in the air can stimulate a reaction, the smell of cookies can trigger a good memory of mom cooking for the holidays, or one of stress if you family was in a state of turmoil during the holidays.

Many triggers for stress are external (or outside of yourself).  Examples of external triggers can be a new addition to the family, in-laws coming to visit, life responsibilities, a new job, loss of a loved one, problem at work or financial problems.

Stress can also be triggered by something happening within us (internal) triggers. For example when you feel your stomach churning or your heart pounding even if you don’t know why, the physical symptoms can be the stimulus for worry.

Tomorrow I’ll talk more about this and give another exercise for stress  reduction.

Would you like to claim your copy of
2 powerful mind calming exercises.

Go to the top right of this page
and put in your name and email
Click on the sign in tab to get them now.

We are asking for your help
If you have anxiety, panic, feel stuck or procrastinate, please send us
the single most important question you would like answered.

Every one benefits from the questions you send a question

* By sending in your question you are taking a physical action.

* Taking action is the first step to making a change.

* Your questions  help us to develop programs that are targeted to your needs.

* Questions help others who may not have the courage to ask, or think they are all alone.

To get you started with your question think about this:  If you had access to an expert on reprogramming the mind to get relief from panic, fear or feeling stuck -  what question would you want answered?

Take action and send in your question now.  Just go the contact Audrey tab at the right side of this page, it will take you to Audrey’s personal email address.

Once at the email, you just write in your question and your name and email, and hit send.  To show our appreciation for your questions you will be invited as our guest to the next tele-seminar given my one of the staff of the Anxiety Control Center.

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Quick tip for anger relief:

Today a client sent the following e-mail asking for a tip to “cool down”.
Hi Audrey,
I’m due for my period next week and I am soooooo moody. I can feel my blood boil. I have NO patience and I’m taking it out on my little 4 year old son.  Not anything drastic just a lack of patience, but I don’t like myself that way.

Any quick fixes until I see you?? Thank you!!!

I thought it might be helpful to others who might have a similar situation if I posted the request and the reply.  I don’t go into detail on the techniques in my return email, because she already is familiar with the techniques I mentioned.  I do have a study course teaching them, coming in February.   For those of you who already  know these hypnotic techniques my reply might serve as a helpful reminder for using them.

Hi _______

I just have a moment before my next client so here is a quick tip:

1.  First focus on your blood boiling and start the tapping sequence.
Remember, first tap on face, under nose and under lip, then on the back of your hand.
Don’t try to change anything just tap.

Use your rating gauge to rate you level
of anger/blood boiling before
and after doing each technique.
That way you’ll know if there is a change

2. Then let the light be all around you, imagine your breathing it in with each breath . . . let it  fill you.  Don’t try to change anything just let the light fill you with each breath.  Notice the color of the light as you gently breath.

3.  You are a kind and wonderful mother, I know that you have been trying to fix the problem by telling yourself to stop being so moody.  I also imagine that you’ve been feeling bad about not having the patience that you usually have.   And then feeling angry with yourself, just makes it worse, as I’m sure you have noticed. Working at change on the conscious level can lead to more frustration, when the anger doesn’t go away. Using the unconscious just by focusing on breathing, changes things, it goes into the programming and begins to sooth things.  I know there is a lot going on in your life right now and considering all of the stress you are doing amazingly well.

4.  So, just for the next few moments,  don’t try to stop the feelings,  just recognize that you are having the thoughts and feelings and do the tapping exercise.  Follow this up by imagining the light surrounding you and breath normally, focusing on the tip of your nose.  Even a few moments can begin to make a difference.

Now, you are using the part of the mind (the unconscious part) that can help without you consciously trying to do anything.
No expectations just do and see what changes.  Well continue to work on an even deeper root level when I next see you. You have so much courage.

Hope this helps.
Audrey

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I hope you enjoyed Tish’s posts the last three days.  She’ll be back with more soon.  I’m Audrey Sussman and today I’ll start with the 1st in a  4 part post.  I’ll be talking about the use of pain to break negative habits.

I actually do NOT use or recommend the use of pain.  In over 25 years of practice I have found there are much healthier ways to change negative habits.  But since there are people “out there” that are recommending using the pain/pleasure principle to change habits,  I felt it was important to talk about how to use it safely, if you do decide to use this type of technique.

What stimulated my thinking about this was . . .  to be continued tomorrow.

Until then you can claim
Two powerful (non-painful) stress relief tips,
by going back up to the top right of this page.

Put your name and email in the box on the right,
and click “sign in here”, they will be sent to you as a pdf.
These are easy to learn on your own,
and are the same ones we use at the
Anxiety Control Center in our Transformation System program.

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